What's your definition of "love"?

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Registered: 02-26-2011
What's your definition of "love"?
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 9:22pm

I am interested in your definition of love, specifically romantic love.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Let me see .

Love means that someone will love me for who I am. All of my faults, craziness, shortcomings, lows and highs, bad days and good days and sticks around.. I would be able to treat him anyway I wanted except abusive of course and he understands. He comes back with no questions asked.

The bible says love is long suffering and kind.. Does not brag or boast.. Does not behave indecently..Is not jealous, Revels in the truth. Love NEVER fails..

Thanks for sharing Marina

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Registered: 07-16-2001
I find your definition interesting, mostly because it's all about what he does for you and not necessarily how you feel or treat him. I suppose when you ask the question, I'm thinking, "How do I feel" while you mean how does he feel?

To me, it's extreme comfort. It's thinking about him in the middle of the day and smiling. It's not being able to hug him tight enough. It's being able to admit to my faults and knowing I won't be judged. It's knowing that I could spend loads of time with him and won't get tired of him.
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 10:11pm

I guess I meant more specifically, "What makes you feel loved?"

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 11:01pm
Probably the same things, just that he's experiencing them, not me. It's not really about the things he does for me. It's been a long time since I've even suspected a guy loved me and no one's ever admitted it, so I don't know that I can really answer your question accurately.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 12-01-2011 - 12:33am

What makes me feel loved?

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Registered: 09-12-2005

First of all, for me, there's no love if there's no commitment, no matter how nice, affectionate, caring or whatever the man is. If we have no future, then I would say that we simply like each other.

In addition to that, I would feel loved mainly if I feel listened to and not judged. If I see that he wants to help me even when I don't ask (because I rarely ask).

Physical touch is important too, but usually men have no problem with that lol.

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Registered: 11-23-2011
Thu, 12-01-2011 - 10:12am
Unconditional love from an attractive, funny, intelligent, financially stable, socially adept, mentally and physically healthy guy who enjoys dancing, reading, playing cards, and shares my other interests and has some of his own would be wonderful. LOL. Not sure if that will happen any time soon. More simply, I feel loved if he makes me feel taken care of. For example, i have a date this weekend to an event thats about an hour away from me, and my date is picking me up rather than asking me to meet him there even though it will be a long drive for him. That makes me feel good. For me, the beginning of strong feelings is a warm inner glow that I get when I think of him or see him. And am starting to feel that way about the guy I've been seeing now for about a month.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 12-01-2011 - 10:27am

I would say that it's when a man does things for me--I always told my ex that anyone could say ILY but it's their actions that show if they do or not.

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Registered: 06-03-2009

I'm with musiclover, actions speak way louder than words for me.

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Registered: 02-26-2011

Lady, by your definition, I will say I'd love a man with a cell phone who can dial AAA or the plumber for me....deal with them on my behalf...and then pay the bill.

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