When do they call?

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Registered: 12-18-2006
When do they call?
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 9:27am

I'm new to the dating scene ... last time I "dated" was two years ago and it was through the Internet - prior to that I was married for 7 years .... I guess you could say I'm a little rusty!

Anyway, I met a guy at a bar on Thursday night and he asked me out for Friday. We went out and had a great time. At the end of the date, I invited him in. Well, after a long makeout session, I just couldn't hold it in anymore .... we had sex. Although it wasn't great, I needed it. I feel like such a floosie now - I mean, who has sex on the first date? Of course, he was being nice about it saying that we could technically call it our third date (because it was really early Saturday morning - now the third day we've known each other).

He said he'd call ... I think he might but not sure. My question is, how long between a date and a call? It's only been a day and I didn't expect to hear from him yet (although I hoped). Should I call him if I don't hear from him by Thursday? I really want to "apologize" for what happened (although it was good for both of us) even if he doesn't ask me out again.

Thoughts?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 03-11-2007 - 1:43pm

The truth is, they call when they call and that's about as specific as you can get. Some call the next day.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-11-2007 - 4:43pm

Well, IMO a good guy calls the next day for sure. It's just not cool to not call a woman the day after the first time you have sex, no matter how long you've known each other when it happens. So I would definitely think twice about continuing to see this guy even if he does call, if he hasn't called by tonight at the latest.

You could call him if he hasn't called by Thursday, sure--but he will have shown you that he's just not all that interested if he hasn't called you by then. Do you really want to call a guy who's not all that interested?

I agree with Shy--there's no need to apologize. He was there too!

Sheri

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 8:46am

You don't have to apologize for having sex with him.