When do you "cut bait"?

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Registered: 02-26-2011
When do you "cut bait"?
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Thu, 04-05-2012 - 9:58pm

I've been distant of late because I met someone last month.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 10:44pm

Okay Since I am the type of woman who can get rid of a man in sixty seconds I say wait it out for another few weeks or so and see what happens.

Of course in the meantime as they say and we say and everyone says live your life and if its love it will come back to you and if it isnt it wont. .. Remember that Rolling Stones Song??

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 10:57pm

Free!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 11:11pm

I know and I truly dont blame you for being mad because I would also .. So then be a witch if it makes you feel better.

But you know what I found out in my old age.. I find that sometimes when I am around a particular person and I want to choke them . Its like this overwhelming feeling of well you can hurt me so let me hurt you. I think when I feel like that its time to back off because actually I dont like that feeling and that isnt who I am..

So maybe you need to take a break from him and as all of the zillions of love gurus say wait for him to contact you. If you wait more than

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 11:15pm

In business, one confronts things head on - "Hey, this is what's going on and let's resolve it and move forward."

As a mom of an adult child, I bring things up, air them and move on.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 11:33pm

Man I do know what you are saying and I think just like you. why do we have to feel like we are playing games and have to tip toe around and this and that. I dont get that either.

as far as you go you were just in the wrong place at the wrong time and you got caught up in the moment of it all and you got

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 12:57am

I chose Five, but if he doesn't respond to it, then I'll choose Six and ask you to marry me.

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Registered: 04-06-2012
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 1:29am

I know exactly how you feel and it's heart-breaking. Just remember, this too shall pass... Honestly, it takes awhile, but there are guys out there who are actually worth it.

My opinion is to wait until you can talk in person and find out his feelings. One thing I've discovered is I like to keep my pride. I never beg. If I'm not wanted, I leave. Stop contacting him. If he doesn't contact you then you have your answer. If he does, then tell him you'd like to meet.

So... never beg, keep your pride, it's not becoming to chase him, distance yourself, find another distraction, don't

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 10:36am

I think he's shown you that he is not ready to be in a relationship right now--he doesn't have the time, he is making his DDs a priority over you and he's still not done w/ the divorce.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 12:12pm

It is the Timing that is off.

chaika

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 12:43pm

Thanks for all the good advice, friends. I've decided to give him precisely one more week, because he texts or calls me and tells me how much he wants to be with me and how sorry he is that he can't be, etc. often, and I know he's sincere.

My plan is this:

1. Get him alone in my house during the next seven days.

2. Feed him dinner

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