When do you "cut bait"?

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Registered: 02-26-2011
When do you "cut bait"?
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Thu, 04-05-2012 - 9:58pm

I've been distant of late because I met someone last month.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 1:12pm

Yeah, Free, Music and xxxs -

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 12:43pm

I agree with Music on this one.

The dad probably had to step up the game because the mom is absent. I dont blame him in a way.. The kid is probably not doing well. Divorce I heard is harder when a teenager.. My son was a baby when me and1st.H divorced which kind of made it easier. He had no reference to anything about separating from his parents.

This girl probably will have abandonement issues because her mom is not around and her dad is

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 12:37pm

IF a kid is going from taking all AP to failing I would say there is definitely an emotional component there--probably a combination of the divorce, dad leaving home and her being scared about what is going to happen after graduation.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 04-08-2012 - 12:12am

Imo this is super Dad to the rescue; giving the attention DD needs to graduate.

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 10:24pm

Yes! It is! She went from 5 AP classes, supposedly, to flunking out and not even being able to graduate unless Dad steps in and takes a strong hand. Mom is out gambling and shopping all the time, so apparently DD is left to fend for herself when Dad's not there.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 8:18pm

Is this not the DD that is having school problems like flunking out?

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 7:25pm

No I think it's pretty unusual for an 18 yr old to want to spend all her weekends w/ dad.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 2:08pm

Boy this is a tough one. unavailable men.. I am not sure but maybe its about balance. I think if a guy has no hobbies or interests or friends he might be unavailable.. I mean if he just dotes on himself all the time and doesnt have anything to do with other things he might be unavailable. But that is a guy who has been alone a long time but just focuses on himself and cant relate to the outside world..

of course there is the obvious the newly sep. or

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 1:43pm

Good point, Music. Of course, the first week the older daughter wasn't in town yet and he wasn't living in the family home and he was all about me/us.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 1:19pm

Well I think the big clue that he was emotionally unavailable for a relationship was that he was not done emotionally w/ his divorce.

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