When men believe that forgiveness…

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Registered: 08-27-2001
When men believe that forgiveness…
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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:15pm

Means just giving us flowers.

Im not dating or have a boyfriend at the moment and don’t have it for a looong time. Today at work some flowers and chocolates were delivered to a married coworker. The coworker was not expecting any flowers from anyone so that was a total surprise for her. When she took the flower arrangement to her desk, the coworker told the cleaning lady to throw away those flowers or if she wants them, she can keep them. I assume the coworker decided that after knowing who the flowers were from and it seems she was a bit upset.

After that happened I thought to myself that perhaps his husband was asking for forgiveness for something he did to her, which is the conclusion I came up with after seeing that. Then I thought why men believe that with some flowers a mistake can be undone and once we receive flowers, chocolates or whatever, the mistake is fixed and that is it. In my humble opinion, flowers or other items do not equal forgiveness if they do something bad to us. I mean if they want our forgiveness it is better if they come forward and talk to us about the situation. Forgiveness cannot hide under some flowers or chocolates

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:40pm

...or maybe they were from a lover she was trying to break it off from!