where are they hiding???

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Registered: 01-18-2006
where are they hiding???
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 1:47pm

For many, many years, I have asked friends and acquaintances if they know any single women. Almost every time they responded by saying everyone they know is married or seeing someone. Often they say they have a list of guys, for whom they are trying to find women. So the problem isn't finding the 'right' woman; it is finding any woman.

So I'm wondering if the women out there have plenty of men from which to pick, but can't find a good one. Or do they have the same problem I have - finding any warm bodies?

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:01pm

"So I'm wondering if the women out there have plenty of men from which to pick, but can't find a good one. Or do they have the same problem I have - finding any warm bodies?"

I swear that there is a geographic correlation between eligible, single people and not, I just wish I could find some hard evidence.

To answer your question, where I am there are plenty of single men, everywhere I go, there there are, looking, peeking and sometimes trying to know my name. The problem? Most of them do not want committed relationships. Most are only seeking very casual dates or special "friendships". I've dated quite a bit in a years time and my problem is not finding warm bodies, but bodies that come with exclusivity and wanting something meaningful. That I cannot find.

And what area, may I ask are you having trouble finding singles? My aream, which is full of singles, is Baltimore, Maryland.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:02pm
I should also add that my dating age range is 27-32. Sadly, at this stage, men around me are not ready for any kind of commitment right now.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:10pm

I haven't met a man I want to date since I broke up with my last BF a year and a half or so ago.

So where are all these men looking for women? They sure as heck aren't in central PA.


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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:14pm

I'm 40.

Men my age or a bit older want 22 year old Barbie dolls. Or they are couch potatos. Or complete trolls.

I actually prefer to date a bit younger - but if a guy has hit 35 or so and doesn't already have kids, he wants to find a babymaker, and I want no parts of that.

I'm pretty certain that I will spend the rest of my days single.


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Registered: 02-24-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:16pm
I find your situation to be the same as mine. All of my friends are married and I usually feel like "the third wheel" anytime we go to dinner, movies etc. I have given up on asking them if they know any guys that they could set me up with. Too bad we don't live in the same state. :)
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:21pm

You are right about some of these 40 year old men wanting 20 year olds. But I can tell you I want NOTHING to do with a 40 year old man and I don't appreciate their advances either. I'm 28 BTW.

The other sad part is, it is these 'geezers' who are more likely to try to pick up me and my friends when we go out. The ones our age, hang back.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:29pm
You really think 40 year old men are "geezers"? That's only 12 years older than you. While it may not be in your dating range and that's fine, I hardly think being twelve years older than someone in their twenties counts as a geezer.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 3:44pm

For the last five months I have lived in very rural Nebraska. This area is loaded with cowboys, but very few cowgirls. The men stay here to work the area ranches, and the women tend to leave for the 'big city'. Before I moved here I lived in suburban Wisconsin (near Minneapolis/St. Paul, MN.) I was there for five years. I had numerous female friends tell me they didn't know any eligible women. Before that I was living in Philadelphia for three years. I can't complain about the number of women there; I think the numbers were pretty even.

The three years before Philly were spent in Birmingham, Alabama (War Eagle). I did a lot of socializing there, but very few of my friends had single female friends. Since this has turned into my own personal biography I will also tell you I grew-up in New Jersey. I think it was sisfox that mentioned the lack of men in central Pennsylvania. Well, I attended Bloomsburg Un. for a year and a half until I transferred out. Where were you then??? (1986-1987)

I guess I think the best chance for anyone meeting a future spouse is through their friends. If the friends don't have eligible candidates, how on earth is it going to happen???

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 3:49pm

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Ironically enough, in NJ working for the coach of the USET.

As for rural Nebraska - the rural doesn't bother me in the least. I'm a farm girl. It's the bloody cold I can't deal with. Not even the thought of all those cowboys could get me to live there in the winter.


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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 3:55pm
Men in their 40s just do not appeal to me at all. They all seem too old and gross. I think it's more of a generational and lifestyle difference than anything else.

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