Where have all the good men gone?
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Where have all the good men gone?
| Fri, 09-30-2005 - 11:45am |
I've heard this question asked repeatedly over the past few years. I will try to give an honest answer, even though it may rankle most of you. I don't post this to make you angry or to provoke a fight, but rather to give some insight to the dilemma. I think the answer to the question is that there is a perception among men in this country that women have become too self-centered to have much of anything to offer. Now I know this sounds harsh, so I would like to qualify that statement by saying that it is not completely supported by reality. However, perception is often reality. The more horror stories we hear about divorces instigated by women who left their husbands when times got tough, the child custody stories that separated men from their children, the message from the media that men should always put a woman's needs before his own, etc. Sunconsiously or consiously, men are looking for their own identity outside of the influence of women. We want to feel like men again, without a woman telling us how we should act or what we should be. On the other hand, some men have just become too tired and jaded by women who have walked all over them for most of their lives. To sum up, I think the answer to your question has to do with the perception that men have of women in today's world...

I think the answer to the question is that there is a perception among men in this country that women have become too self-centered to have much of anything to offer.
Self-centered how?
ITA with shywon & biochic.
Self - centered? what, are there not any MEN who are completely self-centered out there? This whole post is a generalization - you are lumping all women into one group and that's not fair, because I know you know damn well that there are just as many men out there who are totally into themselves and don't give a crap about who they hurt, just as there are women like that. It's PEOPLE, not one particular sex. Get over it, let it go. Live your life, be happy with yourself and forget about the people who are "self-centered". I mean, are you telling me that there isn't a single woman out there who hasn't been walked all over by a man? PLEASE!! by the way, I'm divorced and my XH made the decision to walk out of my marriage "when times got tough" without trying to work on it because he didn't want to look at himself and admit that there was anything wrong with him. It just makes me mad that people generalize like this.