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| Mon, 03-13-2006 - 6:48am |
Who do you think "settles" for less than they want more often?
- Men
- Women
- Neither
You will be able to change your vote.

Do you know someone who is currently settling?
I think women do this more because we are more likely to want something long-term and our biological clocks are ticking. Men are more likely to think that something better is out there if they're in a not-great relationship and don't feel the same need/urgency to "settle."
AJ, enjoying life with C.
My best friend is.
The hygiene part is killing me these days! It's amazing how many men out there do not know how to bathe, shave or comb their hair properly.
It's so hard to watch friends settling. I have a dear friend who is with a guy currently who treats her like complete crap, doesn't have a job, cons HER into doing manual labor for him (she helped him dig a trench for his septic system) - but she's hanging onto this guy for dear life because she's afraid he's her last chance. If he were my last chance, I'd say "Ok, fine. I'll be alone." That kind of treatment isn't worth it.
I hope your friend's fiance gets his act together or I hope your friend sees the light.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
She's mentioned calling the wedding off because of his laziness, but I don't know that she'll do it.
We had a similar situation with one of my cousins. The five oldest girl cousins are all really close and two of the additional 4 stood up in her wedding. Her husband is a jerk and a jackass and someone who ruined his credit because of a gambling problem. We couldn't figure out why she was with him because we could all see how much better she is than that. But I don't think that SHE knew it. At any rate, they got married the summer before last and he moved out (Actually, she kicked him out) 2 months ago. Divorce in on the horizon but they have to be legally separated for 6 months first.
I hate to see her suffering and what she is going through now is not easy but it had to happen. She is in therapy and is finally seeing herself for the amazing woman that she is and I think that she had to see this awful relationship through in order to understand that it's not worth settling on less than what you deserve. A lesson learned late is better than a lesson not learned at all.
I think that just means that men have lower standards when it comes to relationships.