Who picks up the tab?
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|Thu, 04-10-2003 - 4:52pm|
When it comes to the question of “who pays?” on a date, I know it’s up to every couple to decide what they want. But I’m just curious how all of you handle this “issue” at different stages of the relationship. So here’s my question:
Who pays on the dates during the start of the relationship (and please define “start of a relationship” – first 3 dates? First 3 months?)? And who pays when you’re in a steady boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? Do you think it should be the man most of the time or equal sharing between both the man and woman?
I was thinking about this today. My bf is taking me to a basketball game tonight, very sweet of him. But he has paid for a lot of things lately, and I want to offer to pay for my ticket to the game, but I don’t want to make him uncomfortable. I admit he pays on our dates more than I do, but I ALWAYS offer to help - I don’t push it if he declines the help.
And I have picked up the tab on dates, he just tends to do it more often than me. I'm 29, he's 30, we both have good jobs, so there is no financial problem on either end.
What are your thoughts on the subject?