Ah, ok...I obviously didn't remember what had happened correctly, and I can see why you had hopes based on his actions. That wasn't very nice of him to behave that way knowing how you feel, I don't think.
Anyway, I think distancing yourself is a good idea. Hugs!!
Many hugs to you. I know how you feel. Unrequited love is the worse and I know all to well about it so I know what you're feeling. Distance yourself from him and try to heal yourself. It's good that you've accepted that it wasn't to be so that should help you to try to move on with life.
LOL! Hate to tell you this but you'll probably be dreaming about him on and off for a while. Dreams don't make any sense to me. I recently dreamed about a guy I was so in love with about six years ago. He wasn't on my mind. I wasn't talking about him and didn't hear anything about him but low and behold there he was in my dream last week. Go figure.
Do I know how you feel!!! Some big HUGS are coming your way, and let me share what I have realized about myself...
I want to be in a relationship, very badly. I just feel like there is that extra little bit missing and I am ready to meet that person that I will spend my life with (or at least a good portion of it). However, I always seem to fixate my "crushes" on guys who it either isn't going to work out, or doesn't for very long. My first "love" as I'll call it, I was 15 and he was 20, had a severe drinking problem, was a jerk, and had a lot of issues, but I was convinced that I was supposed to be with him. Looking back now, I thank my lucky stars nothing ever happened because I would probably be (literally) barefoot and pregnant right now (and miserable). Other guys too, that I have really, really liked, it seems that there is no way it would work out. My ex-FWB is a perfect example, him and I do NOT get along, he is very disrespectful, an ass, and a womanizer, yet I developed feelings and thought we would be perfect together. What a mistake that would be, and I realize this, but there is still a part of me that wants to give it a shot. I know, I must be crazy!
I think a lot of it goes back to the old wanting what you can't have. For some reason, I seem to choose these guys that are unattainable or just not worth it, yet when there is a geniune guy showing geniune interest, I seem to blow them off. I think part of me is afraid because I've been alone for so long, I don't know what it's like to be with a guy sometimes.
You know that you are better then this guy and that you deserve better, but I also know that sometimes, people can say that until they are blue in the face but it doesn't matter and doesn't sink in (I was just there on Friday!).
I'm sorry you're going through this, because I know how much it sucks, but just know that you are definitely not alone.
It takes time, you know that, and it sucks that we can't just say "okay, I'm over it!" but you'll get there soon enough and this guy will be kicking himself when he finally wakes up and realizes how great you are!
Ugh! Okay, I hate him even more now :) I hate when guys will tell you how great you are, etc., but then not want to go out with you...I don't get it! But I keep repeating to myself "why do I want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me?"...it kind of helps ;)
I could not agree with this posting and Mark's posting more. You have to do some major soul searching and become more in touch with yourself spiritually. I have been called "a creature of habit" and the more I think about that, the more I realize a lot of us are ... it's our comfort zone. I'm sorry you're hurting right now, but believe me, the pain will subside and someone wonderful will come into your life when you least expect. I send hugs to you and wish you the best.
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Ah, ok...I obviously didn't remember what had happened correctly, and I can see why you had hopes based on his actions. That wasn't very nice of him to behave that way knowing how you feel, I don't think.
Anyway, I think distancing yourself is a good idea. Hugs!!
Sheri
I know how you feel. Unrequited love is the worse and I know all to well about it so I know what you're feeling.
Distance yourself from him and try to heal yourself. It's good that you've accepted that it wasn't to be so that should help you to try to move on with life.
Thanks guys.
Hate to tell you this but you'll probably be dreaming about him on and off for a while.
Dreams don't make any sense to me. I recently dreamed about a guy I was so in love with about six years ago. He wasn't on my mind. I wasn't talking about him and didn't hear anything about him but low and behold there he was in my dream last week.
Go figure.
Do I know how you feel!!! Some big HUGS are coming your way, and let me share what I have realized about myself...
I want to be in a relationship, very badly. I just feel like there is that extra little bit missing and I am ready to meet that person that I will spend my life with (or at least a good portion of it). However, I always seem to fixate my "crushes" on guys who it either isn't going to work out, or doesn't for very long. My first "love" as I'll call it, I was 15 and he was 20, had a severe drinking problem, was a jerk, and had a lot of issues, but I was convinced that I was supposed to be with him. Looking back now, I thank my lucky stars nothing ever happened because I would probably be (literally) barefoot and pregnant right now (and miserable). Other guys too, that I have really, really liked, it seems that there is no way it would work out. My ex-FWB is a perfect example, him and I do NOT get along, he is very disrespectful, an ass, and a womanizer, yet I developed feelings and thought we would be perfect together. What a mistake that would be, and I realize this, but there is still a part of me that wants to give it a shot. I know, I must be crazy!
I think a lot of it goes back to the old wanting what you can't have. For some reason, I seem to choose these guys that are unattainable or just not worth it, yet when there is a geniune guy showing geniune interest, I seem to blow them off. I think part of me is afraid because I've been alone for so long, I don't know what it's like to be with a guy sometimes.
You know that you are better then this guy and that you deserve better, but I also know that sometimes, people can say that until they are blue in the face but it doesn't matter and doesn't sink in (I was just there on Friday!).
I'm sorry you're going through this, because I know how much it sucks, but just know that you are definitely not alone.
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