Why am I a misogynist?
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| Mon, 02-19-2007 - 1:19pm |
I'm tired of people telling me on this board I'm a misogynist, that I hate women, that I'm whiny, emascualted, etc. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong.
I'm upset that I can't get a girl to want me. I'm upset that I can barely get a single date that doesn't end anywhere, or that I can't even get a drunken hookup at a party. I feel utterly lonely and frustrated because of it. I feel let down and disappointed for all those times growing up when I tried being there for a girl hoping that she'd give herself to me one day out of appreciation and it never happened.
I came to a woman's board for insight on how women think and feel so that I can use that knowledge to hopefully learn what it takes to get a girl interested in me. Why does that make me a bad person?

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"Even if she’s overweight, she can put down the fork and get on a treadmill."
Do you have any idea how insensitive statements like that are?
Directed to Redon:
For the final time, because I really am done with you.
You are whiny and sad. Your posts are boring. You don't like it that the macho guys are the ones who get the one-night stands?? TOO BAD. It's not fair?? TOO BAD. You don't like it that girls like taller guys? TOO BAD. Life just sucks, doesn't it?
Didn't your mommy ever tell you that life is NOT FAIR??
So overweight girls should just "put the fork down and get on the treadmill?"
Okay then, here's my advice to short guys with "short man syndrome":
Grow up and get over it.
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Even aviators should not wear aviators. Not even state troopers should wear them (Eric Cartman excepted). When anyone else wears them they look like an obnoxious attention seeking fratboy cliche. You, my son, are not Johny Knoxville. Put the aviators down and back away slowly...
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Mon Dieu, he gets it! Welcome to Earth!
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My advice was not to do that. You have to wait for oportunities. You can't just manufacture oportunities out of thin air. The conversation has to start naturally. The idea is not to look like a desperate socially inept boy cruising for a lay.
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I'm sorry we did not coordinate all our opinions before you came to ask all these questions. You can keep trying if you want to but Greta will not date you if she knows that you asked Hildegaurd, Grizelda, Henrietta, and Trixie out last week. If you pursue every possible woman in your sphere you will be sabotaging all future opportunities. I'm not sure what your work/school/comunity situation is, but if you ask a girl out at work, then it will appear (and be) shallow and desperate if you then ask another girl at work out next month.
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First, it is not your place to forgive or not forgive the entire female gender about anything. Get over yourself.
Second, if it is not wrong to be attracted to women for their looks than why is it wrong for them to be attracted to men for theirs? Height is just another aspect of physical appearance. I don't think that you are in a position to dictate preferances for anything about a woman's appearance. The only thing funnyier than your complaining about not being able to get laid is your imperious demands that "she at least be cute".
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Where platforms or get a personality. Either would help to compensate for a lack of height. Actually, forget the platforms, they just make you look silly, superficial, and vain. Ok, I changed my mind again, wear the platforms WITH the aviator sunglasses.
There are lots of things about there appearance that women have a limitted ability to compensate for. Certainly women tend to be (a little) less shallow when it comes to looks then men.
I can't believe I'm seeing such a disgusting display of self pity. What about people with spinal chord injuries, muscular dystrophy, scizophrenia, parkinsons, skin cancer, eye cancer, multiple amputations, brain injuries, blindness, deafness, HIV, Tourette's Syndrome, Down's Syndrome, crohn's disease, cystic fibrosis, MS, or any other debilitating disease that detracts from the lenghth and quality of your life while totally spoiling your chances to get laid all the time (if ever). Compensate for that. Imagine that you are like most people and live in a poor area of the world where there is a good chance that your life will be cut short by violence, starvation, or disease. Certainly you would probably live in poverty. How could anyone who is so well off whine so much? Your height does not matter, it is your personality that is ruining your chances.
>>>too skinny, and have a (not necessarily model perfect) 'wow' kind of face of which at least one feature is gorgeous(and long black hair but that is VERY specific so forget that). <
I’m imagining you’re guy right now and to be honest, he looks pretty goofy.<<<
I agree, but you should not talk platform-aviator boy.
>Your height does not matter, it is your personality that is ruining your chances.<
Thank you.
Phatgenes - your posts are highly intelligent, well-though-out and obviously researched. I just read an article regarding the choices that women make (as far as mating partners are concerned) throughout our monthly cycle, and you are right on the money. You could be teaching a biological anthropology class!
As far as height, I thought I would share this: one of the hottest guys I dated very briefly a few years ago was very short. I'm 5'7" and he was probably 5'5". He was small everywhere (if you KWIM). HOWEVER (and I capitalize that 'however') - he definitely made up for that lack of height. He was kind, soft-hearted, funny as hell, very cute, and could play guitar and sing like no one's business. Needless to say, despite his height he was NEVER at a lack for a date. He broke my heart too. :( But point is - his height sure didn't harm HIS social and sex life.
Of course, he wasn't a bitter prig either. So that probably had SOMEthing to do with it.
Okay, once again with the accusations of being bitter.
Then tell me, everyone, HOW should I feel? Should I be happy and glad I have no dating or sex life or even a history what-so-ever?
How do I keep my frustration and my failures from destroying me inside?
>>>I can't believe I'm seeing such a disgusting display of self pity. What about people with spinal chord injuries, muscular dystrophy, scizophrenia, parkinsons, skin cancer, eye cancer, multiple amputations, brain injuries, blindness, deafness, HIV, Tourette's Syndrome, Down's Syndrome, crohn's disease, cystic fibrosis, MS, or any other debilitating disease that detracts from the lenghth and quality of your life while totally spoiling your chances to get laid all the time (if ever). Compensate for that. Imagine that you are like most people and live in a poor area of the world where there is a good chance that your life will be cut short by violence, starvation, or disease. Certainly you would probably live in poverty. How could anyone who is so well off whine so much? Your height does not matter, it is your personality that is ruining your chances.<<<
I hate this argument; that there's always someone worse off than you so you shouldn't feel bad, and here's why. By using this argument, you're basically saying that only 1 person in the whole world is allowed to feel bad; the person who is absolutely and unquestionably the worse off. No one else is allowed to feel pain or sadness or anger towards their own circumstances because that 1 guys has it worse than everyone. It's a pointless arguement.
I know that there are people who are worse off than me and I feel bad for that, but it's absurd to say I'm not allowed to feel my own anger and pain and frustration. I doubt you'd handle it any better.
I really think you have problems we can't solve for you.
Geeze I agree. I'm so bored of the whole thing. It's like watching an alcoholic drink themselves to death but they won't do anything about it to help themselves.
At some point I have to just throw up my hands and say, "You want to be miserable?? Go for it and have a nice life."
Buh-bye.
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