Why are all of my friend with someone?

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Why are all of my friend with someone?
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Thu, 11-10-2005 - 5:08pm
I'm 33, very attractive, smart. I own my own house, have a great design career, take good care of myself, travel but here I am single...again. I broke up with my boyfriend 5 months ago & I'm sort of seeing someone but not seriously b/c he live sin another state. All of my friends are married & the last one jsut got engaged. THe only single person I knowis my sister & we hang out alot. COme the weekend all my friends are with their husbands. I find I am bored on the weekend & over going to bars. Sometimes i wonder why I am still single. Am I going to be single at 40 with no family of my own? Where do you meet people outside of bars?
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 6:01pm
Have you tried online? I find it to be a great place to cut through all the carp when first meeting somebody. You'll find that you'll probably have quite bit of guys contacting you, too.... Otherwise, I find it hard to meet guys in the normal realm of daily life. I think everyone, especial guys, are too worried of rejection to go out on a limb to try and talk with somebody.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 10:47am
unfortunately i don't have any advice for you, i'm kind of in the same boat. i'm only 22 and i live in a small town where the mentality is that you get married out of high school and pop out 5 or 6 kids before you're 30. that's totally not me! i have always been the independent one, out of my group of closest friends, myself included, there are just 2 of us not in a committed relationship, engaged or already married with kids. the other person just can't decide. she has guys wanting to date her at every corner, at every turn. i just don't understand what's wrong with me. i literally cannot fathom the reasoning behind me being alone. i don't think that i'm unfortunate looking, i'm fun, i have a job, i'm outgoing. i have not had a relationship for about 7 years, and 7 years ago i was only a freshman in high school so how serious could it have been?
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 10:58am

Have you ever considered trying online dating?

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 3:59pm
here are some suggestions to meet guys..online dating,bars,clubs,asking friends,coworkers to set you up...volunteer work,coed sports,taking a class,lots of things!
if you have been single long time then it is something you are doing...or not doing..because there are millions of single guys out there,my GOD!But don`t go out chasing guys..let them come to you..no guy is shy,he just is NOT interested..guys don`t play games,they know what they want...dress a little sexy and wear nice perfume...men like hot women who aren`t afraid to go out and have a good time..and don`t keep them waiting long if you know what I mean..yes sex..don`t sleep around,or on first adate..but after a month,if you stil keep him waiting..don`t be too surprised if you keep getting dumped
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 7:52pm

You know what I always notice about "Why am I single?" posts?

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 8:19pm

You know what I always notice about "Why am I single?" posts? They always start with "I'm smart, successful, own my own home/good job/attractive/" or something along those lines. That can't be a bad thing...

yes but alot of men are very wary of successful women who live on their own,etc...I notice many men will go after more women who are single mom`s,mabye they think they are more easy,and have a package deal...not always true of course..It is interesting what men want..what men say and what they do are 2 different things

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 5:00pm
The answer is easy; there are numerically more women than men and secondly, there aren't many decent men around anymore due to the state of society. As for looking online; well..maybe this is ok in the US but in Europe all there are are nutters and sexpests.
And what is wrong with being alone anyway???