Why are men such dogs

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Registered: 08-07-2006
Why are men such dogs
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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 9:58am
Ok I know I might not be in the right message board with my topic but you guys have really helped me out in the past so I am hoping you can help me out this time. Ok well I have two friends who have kids with the same guy. We will call the first one Jay=ne and the 2nd one Shelley so. Here's is my problem me and Jane are childhood friends we grew up together in the same city and became good friends for like 10 yrs . Now when I moved here I met Shelley because the father was also a friend of mine. I have grown very close to Shelley and I keep in touch with Jane but my problem is Jane is moving here because the father and her are going to work things out. I have been very honest with Shelley and she know that me and Jane are friends and I even told her that Jane and the father are together and they are planning to move in together very soon. Well Shelleys true colors seem to be coming out now and when she found out that Jane and the father were going to get back together she started acting shady and she started talking bad about Jane and saying that her daughter would never go near Jane as long as there together. I tried not to get to involved in the situation but I told her that that wasn't right and she should not deprive the dad any rights just because he is not with her, and try to blame Jane when in reality its not her fault. I honestly wasn't going to let her bad mouth Jane especially because I know she isn't a bad person. Well last weekend Shelley went to club and supposebly hooked up with the father well I asked her and she said nothing happend but I kinda don't believe it but I am very upset because my friend is going to make a life changing decision I know the dad is probably playing the both of them I just don't want to get involved and tell Jane what happend especially since I don't know but I am asking you guys should I tell her because I feel like if I tell her she might get mad but end up with him again and I look bad. Or should I just mind my business and keep out of their problems. I am confused they are both my friends but I feel like I shouldn't be knowing stuff about their relationship and not say anything I wouldn't want my friends to know that my boyfriend is cheating on me and they not tell me. But any advise would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 10:09am
I honestly don't know if you should tell Jane that Shelley "hooked up" with her man.
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Registered: 08-07-2006
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 10:45am
thank you I had another option I was thinking about which was to talk to the father and tell him that I don't appreciate him playing both my friends and he has to be a man and stick to his decision. Because I am sure the only reason he looks for Shelley now is because Jane isn't here but as soon as she moves down I am sure he is not even going to talk to her.