Why are people intimidated by attractive

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Why are people intimidated by attractive
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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 6:14pm
...members of the opposite sex, or consider them to be "out of their league" ?


Edited 7/20/2007 6:16 pm ET by c2shiningc

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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 7:07pm
29 views. Not one response. I told you C2SC, this is a tough question. You will hear the cogs turn but won't see any responses.


Edited 7/20/2007 9:31 pm ET by c2shiningc
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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 9:27pm

I'll bite. I think it's a comfort thing--I feel more comfortable with someone who is around the same level of attractiveness I am. I'm not really an insecure person for the most part but when I was involved with a very good looking man for 4 years there was always that little voice in the back of my mind going, what does he see in me.

Sheri

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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 9:42pm

It depends on the context.


I'd feel intimidated by a marathon runner if I were running with him/her, but looks wouldn't matter.

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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:27pm
I'm curious C2SC as you call yourself... how can you tell how many views a post has had?
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Sat, 07-21-2007 - 12:59am
If you click on 'outline view' above, thread views will appear alongside the thread title.
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Sat, 07-21-2007 - 1:41am
Maybe it has to do with social evolution or something. All animals are more attracted to the "finest" of the species, but as humans we have emotions and other things to offer aside from attraction. However, our experiences have proved that either the most attractive or the most able to provide get the most "offers." So we're behaviorally conditioned to not think we have a chance with someone who is much more attractive than we are. However, in my experience as an attractive female who meets no typical definition of "hot," confidence has always been what has helped me when approaching someone who I thought might be "out of my league." Confidence is more attractive than most people realize.
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Sat, 07-21-2007 - 7:48am
I'm not intimidated by attractive people at all, I will look people I am attracted too square in the eye I do it all the time, I smile at people whether they find me attractive or not. I have hung out with pro hockey players and have had hotter women talk about me behind my back in the bathroom wondering why I got to hang out with them and they couldn't, little did they know I was waiting to use the bathroom when they were busy gossiping about me and my friend. I think if you have a good attitude and think about people as people and don't put people who are hot, or what not on some type of pedestal above you it's all good.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Sat, 07-21-2007 - 2:15pm
I do the same thing, but I have to fake it!
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Sat, 07-21-2007 - 3:12pm

Fake it til you make it! *wink*

Smile,

Deirdre

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Sat, 07-21-2007 - 3:27pm
Yup!

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