Why are people intimidated by attractive
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Why are people intimidated by attractive
| Fri, 07-20-2007 - 6:14pm |
...members of the opposite sex, or consider them to be "out of their league" ?
Edited 7/20/2007 6:16 pm ET by c2shiningc
Edited 7/20/2007 6:16 pm ET by c2shiningc

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The reason (many) people are intimidated by attractive members of the opposite sex is -- quite simple actually -- for FEAR OF REJECTION. Few things hurt as much as hurt egos. Speaking for men at least, when we see that knock out babe go by..there is that immediate burning desire, along with despair because of the certainty of rejection. So they(we) give up even before trying but continue to ogle at her from a distance. If the babe is a knock out and confident on top of that, the intimidation is even more severe.
Then there is the follow up question. Why do we fear (both men & women) that we are likely to be rejected by very attractive people of the opposite sex(being 'out of our league'), thus leading to intimidation? Mind you, the word is 'fear'. There may or may not be any justification to it.
Okay- I'll answer.
Shy pretty much summed up my response by making mention of men seeing the "knock out babe" walking by.
Let's face it... the vast majority of men are not interested in the quality of a woman's heart, her interests, her intelligence, etc. As so many men have stated, "I can't see her personality." So be it. They are interested in the asthetics.
Me... being the NOT-a-knock-out babe that I am, I really won't even consider a man who I consider to very attractive, because chances are, he's not going to look twice at me. And even if the heavens smile on me and the planets align just perfectly, just because he looks at me and goes out with me, I will always wonder WHY he's with me and be wary of him looking for something "better," and I would sabotage myself in the process.
Which is why I prefer to date guys in my own "league." It's partially insecurity and partially inferiority, but it's also reality.
Why do men make you nervous and if your str8 you shoudn't be intimidated by women no matter how attractive they are.
Smile,
Deirdre
Me... being the NOT-a-knock-out babe that I am, I really won't even consider a man who I consider to very attractive, because chances are, he's not going to look twice at me.
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Without trying to argue the basic truth of this thought . . .how many girls feel like men DON’T approach them for the very reason they are in fact so good looking?
When I was younger I didn’t care, I would approach anyone. Frankly of the number of times over the years I in return got a rude, hurtful, belittling response from a woman, 99% were attached to some hot babe “putting me in my place”. So in my case at least I will look over a “hot babe” on sight very often, even if unfairly, just because I “assume” that self absorbed and nasty attitude will be attached. I don’t find arrogance attractive. (-: So for me it is less the fear of rejection, but a disgust of the type of rejection. Polite is easy, the total absence of it so often created a trained response in my case. If I see a girl who clearly “knows” how attractive she is, I pass on sight as I figure there is a 99% chance I won’t “like” her.
Are the experiences of the girls similar?
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