Why can't I get off my butt?

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Why can't I get off my butt?
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Sun, 03-03-2013 - 10:43pm

Ever had the feeling something good is waiting for you out there but can't get off your butt?

That's how I feel. I use my work as an excuse. I work so much that when I have free time, I just want to sit and do nothing. Then I feel sorta guilty for doing nothing (except surfing the net). Thought about spray painting a piece of furniture that's been on my mind for months but it's so windy today. The best I could do was made baba ganoush, clean the stove, the dishes and took out the trash, gabbed on the phone with a gf - oh and manage to get a stomach ache after lunch. I have a very sensitive stomach.

It's  like an addiction to talk. I've been wanting to talk to Belgian guy but the guy has not made himself available. After a couple of short emails from me and one attempt to cal him on skype, he only left me a message on Skype yesterday.  I don't know what it is but it seems he always has something interesting to say, be it the news, or just some interesting observation about mundane things. I also have been reading a book (that he reccommended a while back) and saw something relevant on TV I wanted to tell him.

I know if I get off my butt and do something, I wouldn't need to talk but I'm too lazy.

 

 

 

Avatar for Kendahke1
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Registered: 08-09-2012
Mon, 03-04-2013 - 9:12am

The thing about laziness is that you have to push yourself through it...make yourself get up and do whatever.

Groupon is a good resource for finding things to do... I'm going to take horseback riding lessons (English saddle) because one of my lifelong dreams is to learn to ride English side saddle.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 03-04-2013 - 10:22am

Do you think you have some kind of psychological block that is stopping you from doing things?  You probably have a demanding job but as you said yourself,  you work as an excuse not to do other things.  I think you have to do some self-examination about why you are hiding at work and on the internet and talking to the guy in Belgium who might be interesting to talk to but is preventing you from finding someone you can relate to IRL.  That's probably why you thought about getting back w/ your old BF too even though you know he's unsuitable. So think about something that you really want to do.  I joined dance lessons cause i thought I would like it, even though I didn't know anybody there and now it's not something I have to force myself to do, I miss it a lot when they are closed for vacation, and I met a bunch of new friends.  There must be some activitiy that you've wanted to try so go out & do it.  What's the worst that could happen?  You don't like it, so you try something new.  But the best thing is that you might find something you really like, you might meet people you really like, cause you all share a common interest.  So start looking for things to do in your area and make it a priority to do one thing a week at least.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 03-04-2013 - 11:25am

I basically wasted my entire Sunday.  I hate that feeling.  

I'm ready for Spring.  We had temps in the 30's all weekend and it snowed all day Saturday but no accumulation, so annoying.  What's the point of a Winter with not one half inch of snow?  Anyway, I always get a burst of energy when Spring fever sets in so, it needs to hurry up already!

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 7:38pm

yes, I'm hiding in fantasy land. I think I might have mentioned I suffer from depression since my early 20's. Was treated successfully in the past. Recently I tried to take meds again but got severe insomnia so no meds at all now. It's hard to get out and do things. I haven't found anything I'm interested in enough to keep it up.

It's really  hard b/c it was a long time building up and not too much motivation to get myself up. So I drift in unsatisfactory R/S just so I can have somebody. My bf is just another bandage.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 5:00pm

Yes I know what you guys are saying.. Some days I can get out and other days I just dont feel like going out.. Geeezzzzz at my age of 58 (no excuse) it appears that people around my age dont do very much except work and go home and eat and go to sleep and that is it..

I basically see family and hang out with guy friend and go out alone here and there.. Dont really belong to any groups but keep saying I am joining but never do..... I signed up for a few meet up groups but go very little......

well its true though find one thing you like to do.. I remember last year when weather was nice I went bird watching and hiking and hopefully will get into that again..

If you work full time it must be tough to have time and energy to go out and do things but maybe yes find one thing and then force yourself to do it.. Dr.Phil says (and I should take this advice also) FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT...

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 6:43pm
I think having a regular thing you do every week helps, too. If I didn't have my normal Thursday night trivia/karaoke, I probably wouldn't make much effort to get out. I enjoy it, but some days I do feel more tired than normal and certainly wouldn't go if it wasn't expected. It's good for me because I really do need something like that to keep from getting too depressed.