Why can't I mind my own business?

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Registered: 03-16-2007
Why can't I mind my own business?
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Mon, 05-21-2007 - 11:23am

So... I took everyone's advice and have held off on going to management about my coworker and my supervisor. But today is a hard one!!!

My coworker is moving out of her home (shared with her husband) this coming weekend (into my supervisor's apt complex) and she's been making phone calls for her move and setting up utilities and such. Then my supervisor comes in to tell me and my other coworkers about where he and said coworker went to eat this weekend (after their "work out") as they ALWAYS do! And they laugh and giggle and finish each other's sentences. It makes me ILL!

To know her husband who loves her and tried to fight for her at first has no idea (or atleast I ASSUME he doesn't know) and she's packing up her things to leave... because she "doesn't love him like that anymore"! It makes me sick and more than that... it leaves me questioning the sanctity of marriage and I HATE THAT!

Anyway... I'm over here in my cube TRYING to not care - mind my own business - but it's not working! :(

Thanks for letting me rant! Let me know if you have any ideas how to "not care"! :p

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 05-21-2007 - 12:57pm

I can understand you being upset and not wanting to care. I do believe the private lives of my manager and co-workers are just that, THEIR private lives not mine. I do know if they bring that into MY workspace then I do have the right to let them know that I do not want to be part of that.

So my take on your situation is that you can tell your supervisor that you do not wish to hear about his workouts and other activities that do not involve work, at work. You can do that with your co-worker as well. Now I know working in a cube farm and in a small company that it is well neigh impossible NOT to hear everybody's business.

I can only suggest is to focus on your job and what is going on in your life.

Mark

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 05-21-2007 - 1:01pm

Ok, so they are openly flaunting their relationship to you and your other coworkers?

In that case, I might say something to one of THEM. Tell them that it makes you uncomfortable that they are bringing their personal lives to work. If the woman is your friend, I think you can safely say something to her and ask her to tone it down at work. Ick to the "work out" comment they made - that's just plain inappropriate (if the double meaning was intended).

I can see why it makes you ill, and why it makes you question the sanctity of marriage. However, just because these two are making bad choices, does not mean everyone does that. Try not to let it affect your outlook on relationships. These two have made their own bed and now they have to lie in it. They may end up very happy - or they may get really burned. In any case, it's up to them to deal with the consequences.

For your sake, I'd say distancing yourself and spending time with healthy couples and people is a good idea right now. Try not to take their actions or burdens on as your own.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 12:39pm

I agree with the others.


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