Why didn't he call?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Why didn't he call?
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Sun, 04-27-2003 - 9:07pm
New here, I had a date 3 nights ago and I thought everything went really well. we went out for drinks and came back to my place and watched movie. I sat next to him we held hands and at the end of the night we had a few wonderful hugs and kisses. He asked me if I wanted to go out again and took my phone number. He had to work all week-end so he said he call on Sunday. Well it is 9:00 pm on Sunday and no call. I am so confused. I thought we really connected. By the way we were introduced thru both our sisters who work together. He even told his sister it went well and we were going to make plans to go out again. Any way I am recently divorced and this was my 2nd date since divorce and I really can't handle the rejection and don't know what to do. Should I give it a few days and try to get his number and call him or let it go?? Please help

thanks,

Blue bird
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-28-2003 - 12:43pm
"I really can't handle the rejection and don't know what to do. "

hmmm...

i don't think you're read to date yet. being single and dating is ALL about how you handle rejection. the better you get at it, the better dates you tend to go on.

it's really REALLY important to keep a carefree attitude during the first couple of dates...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-28-2003 - 8:15am
I mostly agree with Shy although if I mentioned Sunday I would do it lightly. Be careful of subjecting him to your increased vulnerability - you have chosen to date before your divorce has been final for at least a year - that is not his issue - whenever I feel vulnerable I ask myself whether it is rational from the man's perspective - meaning - is it because I am blowign things out of proportion/overreacting/generally feeling needy/PMS or did he really do something that would hurt my feelings were I not so smitten or vulnerable or tense? IMHO you shouldn't be dating if your reaction is this strong (reaction to his not calling) after one date.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 04-27-2003 - 10:24pm
Give it some time. If he never calls, then you know he is a flake in the first place and it's a good thing he didn't call. If he calls a few days late, I'd mention that you thought he was going to call on Sunday. Let him know you expect him to do what he says he will. To me, one slip up isn't that big of deal, but if he continues to not call or do things when he says, then you should kick him to the curb. One call isn't that big of a deal, though.

Good luck. I really do hope he calls!