Why do guys say things they don't mean?
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| Thu, 06-30-2005 - 11:20am |
I am throwing this out there in the vain attempt to try and understand why is it that guys say things they don't mean? This has happened to me twice in the past two weeks, I'm not even talking about a simple "I'll call you" and then they don't. I'm talking about when guys act really excited about you and say things like they can't wait to see you again, how they are definitely going to call you etc. The first guy I met at a party and we hit it off and he was saying how he was really glad that he met me and how he was definitely going to give me a call, followed by a rather passionate goodbye kiss. I went ahead and called him (over a week later just to rule out the possibility of a lost phone etc.) and left a very casual message and as of yet no call.
The second guy I met last weekend at a party and we talked for a while, he said he wanted to take me out this week and he suggested Tuesday. To my amazement he actually called me on Monday and we went out on Tuesday and had a really good time. On the way home from dinner he suggested meeting for a drink on Thursday and he said he would call me on Wednesday (last night). He even referred to future dates. Well, he never called. Under normal circumstances I wouldn't have thought twice about him not calling yet except that we had plans that he suggested and he told me he specifically would call.
I am just trying to understand why some guys do this?? Do they get a sudden bout of amnesia after you are out of their sight?? Do they become allergic to your phone number? Anyone??

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The best explanation I've read (and this is coming from a male author or authors) is that a lot of men tend to get caught up in the moment, and they open their mouths and let it out, rather than thinking "hmm, is someone actually going to RELY on my word, and expect me to do what I say I'm going to do?" Then when they are out of the moment, they talk themselves out of calling for whatever reason. I'm not a John Gray fan, but one of the only good things about his book Mars and Venus on a Date is his explanation of why some men don't call, so you might consider getting that from the library or something.
Sheri
It seems to be true. Guys get very excited and have that "moment" when they see a girl and then it seems to dwindle down and it's like, "Oh boy, I hope she didn't take me seriously".
Why that is, I do not know.
The part about that which gets me is that I don't ask them for anything in regards to when will they call or if we're going to see each other again, I can see if I put them on the spot and they said something so as not to come off as rude, but they just throw it all on the table and start blurting out stuff about how they will definitely call me or want to see me again. I don't think they do it to be vindictive or anything but there's no need to make a big production about doing something when you know you probably aren't going to do it at all. It is just really annoying and I am to the point of thinking all guys are just full of it.
I'm done ;-)
Men dont want to be arses.
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