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why do people always say.....
| Wed, 09-12-2007 - 11:13pm |
i got into a MOOD yesterday and starting thinking about this...
why do people always say "you'll find the right person eventually"?

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>>About that self fulfilling prophesy that you and many have mentioned. Do you thin it also works when thinking positively? I know I have definitely thought (and for a long time) that I will definitley meet someone great for me. But it hasn't happened it. <<
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yes, I frankly think it is much more important on the positive side. Think about this, how many self help books are sold motivating us to be happy, to be successful, to find love, etc? How many are sold telling us how to fail? (-: The negative I think comes natural. We have to work at the positive.
What I will say is don't confuse a positive outlook with daydreams. When we talk about what each of us finds attractive, I always say I don't have a "type". I make an effort not to. The way I see it is if I spend all my time day dreaming about some fantasy and get that picture stuck in my head, then when something really special is standing in front of me I want see her because she does not "look like" the stupid picture I painted in my on mind.
I belive if you are a good and decent person, positive about life and love . .then you will a little at a time attract others who feel the same. It will not make me immune to hooking up with the wrong person, but it will make it possible to hook up with the right one. Because for me . . the right one will be happy with life, even when it sucks, you know? Not ditsy, just practical and pleasant. She will be looking for someone like me.
Think this way, look around. Drunks attract drunks. Drugies attract druggies. Swingers attract swingers. Christians attract Christians. Predators and abusers seek out what they can control. What do you attract? What do you project about yourself? That is what you can control, and what becomes self fulfilling every time.
Soo . .to TG's point, don't think, well I will be positive today and then I will have a BF tomorrow. ((-: Just be the kind of woman you can be proud to be, and I truly think the rest does indeed fall into place on its own terms.
Just a thought . . I am in sales. I can cold call, just talk to 1000 people before I come across one that is currently in the market for what I am selling. But they are there! If I dont get myself out there, how would I ever find them? Its not that it was easy when I did, I had to do my part . . but they are there kid. (-;
I'm not usually what you would call an optimist, but I feel quite solidly that I and the rest of us here who are searching
First, I believe your post was directed at me since you quote my post.
Second, I did not contradict myself by saying life can be
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If you call undeniable facts based on science and research and faith and religion baloney, then I can't discuss ANYTHING with you anymore.
Great! Then we're finally in agreement.
Also for the record, I wasn't really contradicting cl214, either. I was agreeing that you can have a full life without a partner, but having a partner brings another dimension to your life. It's not necessarily better or worse - but different.
Finally, yes, I do want a partner in my life. I want that extra dimension in my already full life.
Edited 9/14/2007 4:54 pm ET by tallgirlcolo
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I'm not getting too involved in this banter because I know I'm only going to be irritated by it, but one small thought:
>>Those who
Why are you going to get irritated? You can't handle opposing thoughts?
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