Why do people burn bridges?

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Why do people burn bridges?
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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 8:37pm
I have a friend who had a job prospect that she felt was a sure thing. And, from what it sounds like, the recruiter made it sound like she was going to get the job. She got an email from the company today saying that they had filled the position with someone else, but said the usual....we'll keep your resume on file, etc.
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 5:43am
Yeah, your friend should have vented and cooled off before firing a message back at those people.
I recently got a job with an organization that had turned me down 3 years ago! And by knowing those people (2 people in particular) and networking since then, it has made a huge difference in my success today. You never know! It's true we should treat people nicely (even when we're upset) and never burn bridges.
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 6:58am
No you never burn bridges I don't even burn bridges when I quit a job. I guarantee that if I wanted to go back to a job I previously left 5 years ago they would welcome me back with open arms, I just recently went back to visit them and they were all hugging me it was like Old Home Days back there. You never burn your bridges in the working world because you don't know who these companies network with.

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Deirdre

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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 10:42am

In any business dealing, that cooling off period is critical. You never want to burn any bridge -- even if you think you're sure you'll never use it again. I've been surprised in my career at how many of those bridges overlap, and it can kill you if you tick off the wrong person.


For your friend, I hope she sees it as a learning experience. Next time she's upset, she should vent to a friend - not the recruiter.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 11:31am

Unfortunately, I don't think my friend learned a lesson from it.