Why do people date with the
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| Tue, 10-09-2007 - 9:27am |
intent to figure out if that person is "the one" on the first or second date?
What happened to dating as a fun thing to do to get to know each other. I dated a guy who on the second date was telling me he could see us long term and started grilling me on what my future plans were and would I want to live in the country or city, how did I feel about dividing household chores, etc.
My friends date and I hear them talking about all this crazy he's "he's the one, I just know it" after their second or third date. Does anyone date to have fun and keep busy, and if you meet a great guy then bonus for you!!???
I mean come on!! No wonder the dating scene is so messe up. You have those who have no intention of ever settling down and you have those who are on a marriage mission. Where did the fun and taking time to get to know each other go?
Talk about pressure LOL!!!
Amie

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I'll respond and say after 3 years of dismal dating results, I'm really only looking for something lasting and with marriage potential so I don't wannt waste a lot of time with someone that may only be 'just for fun'. I've been dating those guys for years and really tired of it. For me, dating isn't even that fun unless its commited and going somewhere. I get attached and fall easily, so I have to be really careful who I get involved with and make sure we have similar goals and feelings.
So dating just for fun, isn't that fun to me. And I do understand what you mean by just enjoying it and seeing how things go, but agian for 3 years, that hasn't worked and I kept ending up with that not so interested and commitmentphobes and I won't wait around for them anymore. On to the next!
Now that's not to say I'm in a ruch and will take my time and have fun in the process but if a guy tells me upfront, he's not looking for long-term, I won't want to invest much time there.
I hear what your saying totally!! I have dated only a
I have to agree that dating just isn't that fun. I don't go into every first or second date thinking "I wonder if he's the one," but if I know he's NOT the one, I won't continue seeing him.
I do try to enjoy dates for what they are and be in the moment with the person, but I won't spend several dates with a guy I know is not a good match.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I have to agree that dating just isn't that fun.
Yeah I have to agree, in general, I don't find dating fun. If there's no mutual connection and chemistry, I might as well just hang with my girlfriends and save the mascara.
LOL! Exactly. :)
AJ, enjoying life with C.
As a 35-year old, I can totally agree with that!
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I tooooooootally agree with this. Dating is just one big hassle after another. I just wanna find my guy and chill. I'm sick of looking, hunting and pecking.
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