Why do so many people want something like this????

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Why do so many people want something like this????
Mon, 07-15-2013 - 5:11pm

Ok so in April me and a friend of mine went out to a favorite club of ours and we had had a good time.Well it was at the very end of the night that as I was walking out..this guy struck up a conversation with me.I thought he was cute.I asked him if he was single and he stated yes.Then a few days later I thought that I would take a chance and put up an add on craisglist in their missed connections section.Well I found him...of course after asking a few more question to make sure it was him.Well after that we started e-mailing and he asked me what I was looking for.I told him the truth...a meaningful relationship...NO FWB!! Well after that he told me the truth...that he was in a 'situation'...that is that he's still living with his gf in their 2 kids...I know he has 2 kids but I'm not sure if both are from the woman he's living with or just the one...anyways so basically he told me that he wanted us to do basically another FWB thing..although he stated that sex didn'thave to be involved.Well long story short...he finally found a female that will do what he wants...meaning being with him although he's still living with another woman and their kids!! I admit that I have been very lonely and I do want someone to cuddle with and hug and kiss BUT that's why I want a healthy relationship and not the crap that he was offering.This is the e-mail I had sent him:Now at the beginning i'm referring to him stating that the type of friend he was looking for...I knew what he meant by that...

I get that.I have always gotten that but I value myself more then just being someone's 2nd choice.I do have so much more to give then just being someone's hiding squeeze...I don't want to have to hide around to be with anyone.The way I feel is that if  you're so miserable..then get out of that situation because it's not fair to expect someone to have to hide to be with you or anyone...but I guess there will always be females willing to do such a thing..but not me.

I really liked talking to you because I felt a connection...even when I first saw you for that very short period of time at the club.
I do wish you the best Joseph.
Once again good girls like myself will finish last once again... but I will still have my integrity in tack.
I feel that the e-mail was a good way to end this small chapter in my life :)