Why do you think you are single?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Why do you think you are single?
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Sat, 03-03-2012 - 7:42pm

The purpose of this thread is not to insult anyone.

I have been doing some soul searching and trying to take a lesson or two

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 9:18pm

I've learned this: other people's relationships have nothing to do with me - some of the most unhappy people I know are married for decades, so different things must work for different people.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 11:10pm

I think I am single because I am old , tired, bored and sick of the scene and at my age its depressing to be looking for a man at 57 years old .

I am insecure and cant be bothered to find someone and then have to work at it.. I am jaded and cynical about finding a man.

I am single because I dont go out enough and go out of

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 12:13am

Misslyn, don't you think you had a right to be mad a your BF when he said he'd call you & then didn't?

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 6:24am

Women are encouraged to look for a flaw within themselves to explain being single. The theory is, if you can identify this flaw, then you can correct it. While I think some men and women have serious issues that need addressing, I think there are plenty of "healthy" women out there who for one reason or another just haven't met the right guy yet.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2005
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 7:43am

I agree with the idea that single people should not be blaming specific flaws.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 9:15am

BINGO
what you said is probably why most of us here are not in relationships.. Well? maybe except for Marina because she atleast works at finding someone..

sorry to say but I believe

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 10:09am
I meet men, but most of them don't meet my standards. The ones who do are married, so they are off limits. I think I'm at an age where there aren't a lot of guys who are single. I don't mind younger guys, as long as they aren't too much younger. The older ones are just getting their divorces and tend to be burned too much at the moment. I do have a very hard time being vulnerable with men, but I'm working on it. The ones I've tried to let my guard down with have proven that they really didn't deserve it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 10:17am

I was thinking about this the other day--for all of the actual relationships I've had (not the guys I only went out with once or a few times) I never had to do any WORK to find them.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 10:52am

I totally agree that meeting someone shouldn't be a lot of work. And I think that when we over achieve in the "looking" department that we can become desperate and in fact, neglect other aspects of our lives--the very things that make us interesting and attractive to begin with.

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 11:05am

Like you, Music, I am tired of expending the effort for something that pays decreasing dividends as time goes on.

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