Why do you think you are single?

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Why do you think you are single?
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Sat, 03-03-2012 - 7:42pm

The purpose of this thread is not to insult anyone.

I have been doing some soul searching and trying to take a lesson or two

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 11:10am
floridagirl52 wrote:

I totally agree that meeting someone shouldn't be a lot of work. And I think that when we over achieve in the "looking" department that we can become desperate and in fact, neglect other aspects of our lives--the very things that make us interesting and attractive to begin with.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 11:13am

I've met men in all sorts of ways, like you have.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 11:25am

You make good sense Marina and yes we all have to get out of our comfort zones and change it up..

Two years ago I took some golf lessons for about two months just for fun.. Well? At that time I wasnt ready to meet anyone but I truly believe if I had kept that up or hung out at the golf course I def. would have met someone by now..

I truly truly think its that we dont get out of our comfort zones and look for other ways to meet men we wont meet them.

I know a woman who is 59 and she does alot of things to meet men and she isnt even online dating. She goes to dances. She goes to speed dating. She goes to singles events and alot of them. She puts herself out there and guess what? She meets men and she has many dates and she has had short term relationships.. She just goes out there and changes it up and is doing well. She has not met the man of her dreams but atleast she gets men and puts herself out there. She isnt

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Sun, 03-04-2012 - 1:15pm

I know why I'm single and there are two reasons.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 4:02pm

I am not making an effort at this time.

chaika

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Sun, 03-04-2012 - 6:38pm

I've been thinking of that definition of insanity a lot lately.

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 7:04pm
You know the funny thing Music. I would receive many messages on OLD, however the few times I've sent first messages myself, I would never get an answer. And it's not like I was contacting some unattainable guys, they were pretty ordinary looking, I would even say that I was be out of their ligue. Based on our profiles, we had a lot in common and my messages were personal, not some stupid "hi, how are you ?" et yet, still not answer. So I stopped contacting men first. I'm not sure if I'll want to connect to an OLD site again.

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 7:13pm
misslynn76 wrote:

The purpose of this thread is not to insult anyone.

I have been doing some soul searching and trying to take a lesson or two

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 9:06pm

Honestly, xxxs, I don't know how likely the FWB concept really is - for anyone, not just you.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 9:42pm

Yes a FWB is much harder now that I am beyond the young adult era.

chaika