Why do you think you are single?

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Why do you think you are single?
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Sat, 03-03-2012 - 7:42pm

The purpose of this thread is not to insult anyone.

I have been doing some soul searching and trying to take a lesson or two

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Registered: 01-02-2012
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 5:14am

Cfk, I hear ya regarding the low libido thing.... Mine is higher now than it used to be, but only the recent few years.

My heart was for many years

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 9:47am

OMG
I think I know why I am single and I did say something about this on my other post but it struck me as the number one reason I am single.. I was talking to a woman last night about me and and dating and meeting men.She immediately said that I am scared and dont want to have another broken heart and that I stay very guarded..

I think she is right...and I think that number one reason excluding most of the others is that being I was married and divorced twice and I had a rebound relationship after 2nd.Divorce for awhile that

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 12:16pm
Sireanita,
Looking back, I remembered that he was a bit distant before the breakup. I had to initiate most of the things we did.

Yeah, I also think he met somebody while with me.
One day he was showing me the photos on his iphone and it came across one of him and a woman. I asked him if that was his new gf but he denied it.

It is human nature that we remember the good times only.

Guess what? This weekend my ex-cuban guy texted me wanting to hook up. I said but you have a gf and his response was "doesn't matter but I still want you".
So I replied, ok break up with gf and lets go lunch and movies.
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 12:26pm
Almost everytime I got dumped by a boyfriend, they say they still wanted to maintain sexual relationship with me. Am I only good for one thing?

If I am not good enough to be the gf then why am I good enough for sex?

FWB is definitely not for me as I get attached emotionally.

We have a free daily newspaper in our city with 'shout-out" pages. There are so many married men looking for a FWB arrangement.

Are there really women interested in that arrangement? It seems to me that these men wants to have their cake and eat it too.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 1:26pm

Men too get the same treatment.

chaika

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Mon, 03-05-2012 - 3:23pm
misslynn76 wrote:
Sireanita,
Looking back, I remembered that he was a bit distant before the breakup. I had to initiate most of the things we did.

Yeah, I also think he met somebody while with me.
One day he was showing me the photos on his iphone and it came across one of him and a woman. I asked him if that was his new gf but he denied it.

It is human nature that we remember the good times only.

Guess what? This weekend my ex-cuban guy texted me wanting to hook up. I said but you have a gf and his response was "doesn't matter but I still want you".
So I replied, ok break up with gf and lets go lunch and movies.

It probably has nothing much to do with you. They were probably not into a serious relationship anyways. They don't seem serious about their gfs either since they want to continue having sex with you. Maybe you simply go out with wrong guys, I mean you ignore signs of them not being interested in a relationship. I vaguely remember your old posts and that's the impression I had from them.

This Friday I met another Cuban guy (I saw him before but we never danced or talked). So he suddenly decided that he liked me, started telling me sweet words, holding my hand, kissing my neck. At first he thought that I had a bf, but that he was in Cuba. He told me that what happens in that discotheque stays there, that I shouldn't worry. Then when he found out that the guy was married and I was single, he told me that he's not looking for just sex, but finding a woman for a relationship is difficult, blablabla. Yeah right ! Whatever, just to get me into bed. What I'm saying, don't just believe what they say, it,s

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 7:26pm

I might be picking the wrong guys. But the guys I date are the ones that interest me. The ones that are interested in me, I am not intererestedd in them.

I told Cuban

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Registered: 05-23-2008
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 8:56pm

"My question is, do you know why you are single?"

Because I had the bad luck to be born on the wrong planet. Simple as that.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 9:02pm

Do you mean; that if a guy shows interest, you will not be interested in him?

chaika

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Tue, 03-06-2012 - 2:14am

I see those ads, too, and I wonder "Do any of them EVER get what they imagine scores of women are waiting to give them?" However, long ago I ran FWB ad looking for men.