But why does it have to hurt SO bad?

We all feel Shy's sadness that she hasn't married and had babies by now.

We all feel one another's frustration that nothing has clicked yet with the right person.

You all know I keep swinging the bat, but so far, haven't hit it out of the park.

Here's the part I don't get: WHY does it have to hurt so bad? Why can't we just say, "Oh well, easy come, easy go" and let it slide on past us. For instance, I feel personally rejected by the divorcing man EVEN THOUGH I knew going into it that he is radioactive.

If this happened to us all once or twice, we learned a lesson and then we made changes and got on with life, got the results we seek, that would make sense. But some of us (I among "us") continue to find the same lessons over and over and over again.