But why does it have to hurt SO bad?

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Registered: 02-26-2011
But why does it have to hurt SO bad?
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Mon, 04-16-2012 - 3:27pm

We all feel Shy's sadness that she hasn't married and had babies by now.

We all feel one another's frustration that nothing has clicked yet with the right person.

You all know I keep swinging the bat, but so far, haven't hit it out of the park.

Here's the part I don't get: WHY does it have to hurt so bad? Why can't we just say, "Oh well, easy come, easy go" and let it slide on past us. For instance, I feel personally rejected by the divorcing man EVEN THOUGH I knew going into it that he is radioactive.

If this happened to us all once or twice, we learned a lesson and then we made changes and got on with life, got the results we seek, that would make sense. But some of us (I among "us") continue to find the same lessons over and over and over again.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 6:43pm

Ha ha!

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 11:19am
Marina90292 wrote:

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 11:04am

All of us get frustrated looking for a lover.

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 10:16am

Well, I guess if I said it to the men, it would be mean-spirited.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 9:55am

It does seem kind of mean spirited to assume that all the single men are defective in some way while all the single women are wonderful.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 1:28am

Thanks Free.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 7:32pm

I dont think there is anything wrong with holding onto the hope. I mean if I didnt cling to hope I would have

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 5:09pm

:::::dammit::::::

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 5:06pm

Oh, Anita, how right you are!

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 3:07pm

It hurts because we are seeking that emotional/sexual connection to get the warm fuzzies in a cold world.

dragowoman

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