why hasn't he asked me out yet?
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| Fri, 11-11-2005 - 12:35pm |
I met this guy who is a promoter at a club (network design engineer by day) and he invited me out one night to party with him and his friends in VIP. I go and we hit it off... so well that we only danced with each other the entire night. The next day, he invited me to go out again, but this time not only was he dancing with only me, but he was being really affectionate (holding hands, kissing me on my lips and forehead, hugging, cuddling).
I went out with him again last night (exactly one week after we met) and it was the same thing. When we talk on the phone or online, he is always calling me baby, babe, boobie, etc. I am really starting to like this guy and it seems that he likes me too, but he hasn't yet asked me out on a one-on-one (date).
He's 27 and I'm 23. I don't know if he just wants to take things slow with me or if he's just being really cautious because he's older and more experienced? We talk every day and I do drop hints to show him that I'm interested... so what is the deal?
Edited 11/11/2005 12:36 pm ET by candiez_nyc
Edited 11/11/2005 12:40 pm ET by candiez_nyc

If he is a promoter for a nightclub, maybe he is just wanting you to show up there for business reasons. The more customers there are in a club, the more money it makes. Clubs make good money if they have a lot of young, attractive customers in their business.
Him calling you baby and all that in the emails would come across as phony to me. I wouldn't care for it.
There's a chance that this might be a business thing for him, but do you see him doing this with other girls too? Sounds like, if it was a business thing, that he wouldn't spend the WHOLE night at the club with just you ;)
Too me it sounds like he's possibly interested...seeing each other three times in a week and talking on the phone every day tells me he's probably attracted to you. In fact, that seems like a lot to me, and I would be careful about that. Too much right at the beginning can be a red flag.
Maybe he's just being cautious about asking you out on a one-on-one date because you've only known each other for a week. So, you could either wait for a bit and get to know him more, which would be good to do anyway....or you could make the first move and could ask him out.
I would be a bit catious though, and watch for the "player" and/or "business deal" red flags.
Good luck!
Alyssa