why it's great to be single!!

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Registered: 05-26-2006
why it's great to be single!!
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Tue, 06-27-2006 - 2:43pm

Ok people. i just got out of a relationship, and I honestly don't know why it's good to be single...my friends keep telling me it's great - their stories don't support the arguement.

so let's come up with a list of reasons why it's great! (real ones)
(i live with roommates so...none of that long shower crap)

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 3:21pm

It's great to be single because you really find your independance, as opposed to being co-dependant. Being co-dependant is a very special bond, don't get me wrong, there's nothing negative about that...but it's important that you really find your own strength and are completely happy with yourself.

I like not having to worry about anybody else! I can do my own thing, whatever I want! Sometimes it's something as small as control over the tv! :) haha.

I don't think the upside of dating is massive dating and sleeping around, that's never been my style. But some people do like it.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 3:32pm
I think most people will only say being single is great after they come out of a bad/unhappy relationship.
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Registered: 05-26-2006
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 3:53pm

that's what i think.

I honestly can't think of any reasons. I was trying to find some here.

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Registered: 08-13-2004
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:00pm

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No, I don't agree. I think being single is great because your peace of mind does not depend on the moods of the other person.

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Registered: 06-19-2006
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:04pm

I actually enjoy being single and not out of a bad relationship. Here is why I enjoy being single:

* I have learned that I can do anything for myself and that is the best feeling!
* I don't have to answer to anyone
* I don't have to divide my free time up between his friends and mine
* I can flirt with men when I am out on the town and not feel bad about it
* I can still dream about that right guy for me one day
* I know that one day I will be married, so I can relax and really ENJOY being single
* I can wake up at any time on the weekends
* I can spend my extra money on whatever I want
* I can make any decision based on my wants and needs, rather than a guy
* I have learned that MY time is precious and have learned to never take that for granted anymore
* I can go on dates with men who pique my interest
* I can keep my place as clean or messy as I want without feeling guilty
* I can take naps when ever I want without feeling guilty
* I don't have to pick up after him
* I don't have to make dinner every night if I am not hungry

And those are just a few. My point in here, if you want to be married with kids one day, then more then likely you will. So don't waste your precious single time on worrying about being single. You might miss and or regret it one day.

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Registered: 05-26-2006
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:05pm

That's a great one!

I haven't heard too many that I agree with, but that's true i think. Because if they're all downer you (at least i did) always thought i might be the cause...it was sometimes hard.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:13pm

>I honestly can't think of any reasons.
>I was trying to find some here.

Asking why it's great to be single is almost like asking why it would be great to be the only person on Earth. Reasons can be found like no traffic to contend with, no queues at the bank or supermarkets, not having to work and being able to do anything you want. But what is the opportunity cost?

I could say that the lack of replies so far is a testament to the fact that there aren't many "good" reasons to be single. But, without intending to criticise, I think the way you wrote the subject heading and your choice of icon didn't really help. It seems like you were making a statement rather than asking a question.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:18pm
The majority of your reasons sound like they are coming from someone who has had a few disappointing relationships but still doesn't want to remain single. Which supports what I think.
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Registered: 06-24-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:20pm
I AGREE! Thank you! I'm sick of everyone complaining about how being single is SOOOOO horrible and has no upsides. That's crap in my mind, people who say that are simply upset and frustrated that they aren't in a relationship. Most women and men can sense that attitude and it's kinda desperate and not attractive!!!
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 4:31pm

>That's crap in my mind, people who say that are simply
>upset and frustrated that they aren't in a relationship

Isn't this the whole point of the thread? I think many people who are single actually want to be in a perfect relationship. Why would anyone who thinks being single is great still dream about meeting the right guy? It doesn't make sense. If you think being single is great then surely you want to remain that way? Or is it only when it's best, like getting out of a bad relationship?

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