Why must I represent for the singles yet again?!!!

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Registered: 02-08-2011
Why must I represent for the singles yet again?!!!
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Thu, 08-23-2012 - 3:13pm

I just need to vent. My friend's birthday party is this weekend and I thought she was doing girls only. No she's doing couples. Her husband, all their married friends, and another of our engaged couple friends! Who's the odd, always single man out? Me of course!

I'm so sick of this! Why do I always have to freaking carry the single cross? I'm ready to put it down. Even Jesus had someone come along to help him carry his cross on the way to calvary. I've been the single one so many times (from college, to newly working girl, to more established woman, to 40 in 60 or so days) and I'M SICK OF IT! Why is it so hard for me to meet someone who can actually be in a relationship? The one guy I would ask to go with me of course, has to be working out of state for two months and he's nowhere near here so I've got to put on the brave face (I, of course will look flawless doing it) and smile while all the couples talk about their couple stuff and dance together.

I'm trying to tell myself that I'll be free to mingle and meet all kinds of men, but the fact is, there are never any there to meet. I guess I'll entertain myself chatting up some loser or gay dude. I HATE THIS GARBAGE!

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 10:52am

 

'...While Marina had unique situations, she did start interesting discussions'

 

Someone said the 'M' word!! :smileysurprised:

 

Sigh. So agree. I miss her/him/them. Real or not, 'she' sure wasn't boring. Made this board 'happening', active.  And brought up things none of us would dare mention in a million years....

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Registered: 02-08-2011
Thu, 08-30-2012 - 12:45pm

Wow! I didn't know my vent would generate such a controversy! :smileyvery-happy: At least people are talking!

Well for those who are wondering (or care), I did go and it was fun! I have awesome friends, and while I did end up as the only single (unmarried, unattached) in the group of seven, I did dance at all the clubs we went to, often with multiple men crowded around me. I'm kind of a life of the party kinda girl, and I can get folks going on the dance floor. I even chatted with a few dudes, who ended up being jackasses, but I think they are generally jackasses. No reflection on my singleness.

I had the watchful eyes of my friends husbands (who are also friends) to make sure none of these dudes got out of line (which is a plus of being single while out with friends), and we celebrated my girl's birthday in style! I always have a great time, but I can admit that it gets frustrating not having a guy of my own to dance with, or hold hands walking down the street with, or all the other stuff couples do when they are together.

Finally, to xxx (or whatever your name is) who said something about my values and priorities being screwed up (or again, whatever you were blabbering about)...dude you're such a non-factor.

To everyone who scolded him and supported me, thanks!

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