Why is OK... continued

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Registered: 02-01-2007
Why is OK... continued
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 3:53pm

I think the post below and the reaction it received goes to show the difference between men and women. I am not saying women don't play games, but it's hard to protect your heart when there is a view that all women play games to trick a guy into a relationship. I have had my share of guys basically telling me what I want to hear so they can get lucky. It's extremely hurtful to discover that you put down your guard and openned your heart for someone who just wanted sex so they don't "feel lonely". Maybe the thing they miss the most is their wallet. I have my psysical needs like everyone else, but I have emotional needs as well, like having a real loving relationship based on respect and not on how much he spends for my attentions. I think there are things a guy can do that are romantic and not necessarily breaking the bank.

I am an honest person and if I am not interested in a guy, I let him know. I don't waste my time or his. There is a view out there that we have to trick each other contantly to get what we want. It just creates more mistrust.

Maybe it's a matter of taking you time and getting to know the person before you get into the sex part. If all you want is sex, there are ladies out there who can help out with that. It's not fair to be lied to so a guy can fulfill his needs, what about my needs?? It's like we are not human beings but we must be dominated so they can get what they want. It's very demoralizing to read posts like this.