why should I want to get married anyway?

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Registered: 04-15-2003
why should I want to get married anyway?
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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 2:08pm
I am a graduate student in journalism in NYC and I'm working on a story about women who try on wedding dresses even though they aren't engaged. I have to admit that while I haven't done this myself, I have been tempted and there seem to be a lot of women who have done it. Have any of you? In the course of working on the article I have also been thinking a lot about why women want to get married in the first place. Why is our culture so insistent that women get married by a certain age? If anyone knows of any resources or books or just generally has any thoughts, I would really appreciate hearing them for background information and for my own personal knowledge. Thanks!
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 04-15-2003 - 6:52pm
Being single is okay, but there are good reasons for getting married. It would be nice to love and be loved by someone, have a family, share a home with someone who will always be there for you, experience the intimacy of a lifetime commitment, etc. And no, I've never tried on a wedding dress. I never wanted a traditional wedding, though. I always imagined myself eloping because eloping is romantic, but weddings seem like an expensive hassle. Iri
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-15-2003 - 2:59pm
I am a single female lawyer, 36, in NYC - I tried on wedding dresses only when I was engaged - i wanted to when I was 19 and my friend was engaged but she did not want me to upstage her, so I didn't. I certainly have looked at dresses on line when I was close to being engaged.

For me, I want to get married because I like the lifestyle and I want children and do not believe, at this point in my life, that intentional single motherhood is in the best interests of the child.