Why You're Not Married

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Why You're Not Married
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Mon, 12-19-2011 - 10:31am

Saw this piece a while back and it's on HuffPost again.

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Mon, 12-19-2011 - 1:00pm

Someone posted the link to that article here a couple of months ago.

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Thu, 12-22-2011 - 11:33am

Been there

done that

got the divorce

did not get the T shirt

chaika

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Thu, 12-22-2011 - 3:03pm
Please don't be offended, but I watched Geek Love on TLC last night...There is a speed dating event that takes place at ComicCon(sp?) every year. I think your picture may be some sort of super hero or something...aren't you single? If that's an interest of yours, maybe you should look into it. The participants seemed to have quite favorable results. They flew in from all over the US--the episode I saw took place in NY. Again, not saying you are a geek. Just saw the masked pic and couldn't keep my thoughts to myself.
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Fri, 12-23-2011 - 9:01am

As a man, I'm probably one in a million in the way I feel about the idea of getting married.

I don't let my penis run my life. I never did. That's my brain's job. There are pills men can take to kill their sex drive, but there's no pill that can make a man un-lonely. I know that the difference between love and sex is like the difference between s*** and Shinola.

As I get older (I'm 44-1/2), it feels to me like women are just getting more and more selfish with their love, and I can't help but suspect that they get a big kick out of this meanness. For me it's not about scoring free sex---which after all will not pay my bills---but about merging two lives. Anyone who does the latter without knowing what they're doing is a damn fool IMO.

The reason I'm not married is because all the eligible women went directly from being party-mad teenagers to being self-centered old killjoys.

When the last man dies, will women still feel so smug?

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Fri, 12-23-2011 - 9:27am

The reason I'm not married is because all the eligible women went directly from being party-mad teenagers to being self-centered old killjoys.

When the last man dies, will women still feel so smug?

Wow, what a negative vision you have of women. There are a lot of women (many right here on this board) who didn't go from party-mad teenagers to self-centered old killjoys. We also don't get a kick out of being mean. If you really have this opinion of women, I'm sure that it radiates out to women you meet. Believe me, I also have a similar reaction when women say, "All men are lying, cheating a$$holes." They just aren't, but if that is what you choose to see and believe then that is what you will find.

Consider for a moment the many women who really, really want to find someone, and for whatever reason they just haven't. These are perfectly wonderful women, not mean or selfish. They are out there, I promise you.

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Fri, 12-23-2011 - 12:54pm

Very well put, Florida.

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Fri, 12-23-2011 - 1:30pm
floridagirl52 wrote:

The reason I'm not married is because all the eligible women went directly from being party-mad teenagers to being self-centered old killjoys.

When the last man dies, will women still feel so smug?

Wow, what a negative vision you have of women. There are a lot of women (many right here on this board) who didn't go from party-mad teenagers to self-centered old killjoys. We also don't get a kick out of being mean. If you really have this opinion of women, I'm sure that it radiates out to women you meet. Believe me, I also have a similar reaction when women say, "All men are lying, cheating a$$holes." They just aren't, but if that is what you choose to see and believe then that is what you will find.

Consider for a moment the many women who really, really want to find someone, and for whatever reason they just haven't. These are perfectly wonderful women, not mean or selfish. They are out there, I promise you.

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Fri, 12-23-2011 - 2:43pm

I also think that most men won't even look at women or give them a chance if they are less than maybe an "8" on the attractiveness scale.