will he or won't he

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will he or won't he
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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 1:32am

Ok, so I am not one to usually give my # out voluntarily; if the guy asks, ok then, as I guess I'm old-fashioned, and also sorry to admit a little chicken to do this.

But the other day, I liked this guy so much and things haven't really been working out for me in the dating dept. so I took the plunge and gave him my number.

I figured nothing would come of it, but was proud of myself for having done it, as it's been a big fear of mine for a long time. Him actually calling would have been icing on the cake.

So, about a week goes by and I'd pretty much given up on him calling, but was still glad I had done it, ya know, conquered my fear a little bit.

Then, out of the blue, he calls but I wasn't able to answer so he left me a msg, without a way to reach him back as I only got a partial number, saying he'd call me when I got out of work that day. So, he didn't call when I got out, but I wasn't sure if he may have later that night while I was in class. In any case, we just kept missing each other and I had no way to call him.

Then I decided to call where he worked as I was afraid he may have thought I got the whole number and the ball was in my court this time, and I wasn't throwing it back.

So, with the help of my mom, yes, my mom (Lord love her!) I finally got a hold of him, and he said that he realized I had no way to reach him so I said to call me when I'm not at work so he can get me.

Well, it's been almost a week and I haven't heard from him, but we did also just have some really bad weather and he works for an electric co, so people who love me and don't want me to feel bad are telling me he's prob just having to put in extra hours to fix everything, and he does work a lot as it is, so my question is will he or won't he call me again or should I just stop worrying or hoping for it?

Also, I hope it wasn't overboard to try and get a hold of him the way I did; when you really like someone, you do whatever you can within reason, and besides, he had called me back first, so it's not like I was tracking him down out of nowhere.

I know only he actually has the answer, but I needed to see if any of you has had this situation where it just takes longer for him to call again?

Thanks in advance for any answers or suggestions to just let it go,
mermaiden25

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 10:34am

I have never had anything meaningful develop with a man who hesitates or waits to call.

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 12:19pm
Like I said, thanks for the suggestion.
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 12:45am
I think he is just as cautious and shy as you are...but I would not be waiting on this guys call that is for sure. It will only make you look desperate when he does calls. Just let it happen and if he call and you miss him... Call him back :) Good Luck
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 5:48pm

Thanks, sin! I know that is what I always thought too, but then I had to read that darn book:
"He's Just Not that Into You" so I'm thinking, if he is really interested, he'll call, but then he did call, and twice, he tried both times on Tuesday, in fact, today would have been the time he usually would, but we did set it up where he can call me or come over as he works over here a lot, which is how we met, but we did just have a bad storm and he's prob working on repairs for that. Or I'm delightfully deluding myself!

so now it seems that he was interested, so I'm confused all over again. Why can't it ever just be simple with men? I did this whole thing to simplify that and it didn't work - oh well!

what will be will be, que sera sera and all that, and I don't want to totally buy into that book either!

I know, a lot of buts, BUT ;) for whatever reason, I am definitely listening to you ans shywon and I'm not waiting around and if he does call, I'll be happy when he does!

But if he is shy, then we're a perfect match! Just kidding, will just have to wait and see, but it feels good just to get other peoples opinions too.

memraiden25

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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 7:22pm

There's a reason why that book was written, and you said it in your first post:


when you really like someone, you do whatever you can within reason


That includes making a phone call when you know a girl will be home.

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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 9:56pm

Thank you, shywon, and as I also said in my post, I am listening to you and sin and will just be happy if he calls.

So I am not grasping on, but yes, I will reserve some hope since it has only been a week as I have learned in the past not to put a timetable on these things either.

don't worry, I am not going into hermit-mode over this and am still putting myself out there, like we all have to do.

I know we all have to kiss quite a few frogs, and I'm sorry if it elementary to dream of a fairytale; it's just so much better than the reality half the time.

as I also told sinnamon, it just helps me to be able to talk about it with others, so thanks for the input.

mermaiden25