Women and flirting

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Women and flirting
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Sun, 04-23-2006 - 10:39pm

So theres a thread on here about how a lot of you women shut down or become intensely shy when you see a guy you like or are attracted to and dont know how to act...

If I remember correctly someone wrote about how they would aviod their crush in a social setting with other people...another one said that she smiles and then doesnt do anything after that.

I am confused...

A lot of girls smile at me and a lot of girls aviod me so should I pursue those ones?
I am being sarcastic but I do have a genuine question to the females here...

How do I pick up on when a woman likes me so I can approach her or continue to talk to her or try to flirt or whatever. I would just like to know so I dont make a fool out of myself like I seem to do sometimes with women.

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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 9:53pm
I used to be obsessed with the same question, wondering if the girl is interested, but it really is a waste of time. If you want her, just go up to her. I cannot tell you what to do in front of a girl. However, like many women here pointed out before, you will be okay as long as you approach her with confidence, the meaning of which you must find out yourself. Good luck.
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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 2:09am

Well...you wont believe it but she called...

I didnt answer my phone because I didnt recognize the number and then I forgot about it and looked and there was a voicemail...and it was this girl apparently. She said who she was and my jaw dropped...

This sort of thing doesnt happen to me

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 7:43am

You called her back, RIGHT???


Who has the hammer.

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 8:53am

LOL

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 1:06pm

I havent called her yet I dont know what to say...

I dont know if I should call her I mean something seems weird about this whole thing...a knockout perfect 10 of a girl hunts me down to call me because she likes me that much? no way Im not buying it...I will call her though. No clue what to say though...

On her message she giggled a little and said she was hoping it was the right number and then she described who she was(like I'd forget lol) and jokingly said she had stalked me by asking my friends for my number. She said she'd like to get together with friends or something maybe this weekend and all hang out and get to know each other or something like that. I wish I could put the transcript of the message on here for you lol.

I am a little in shock by all this...

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 1:28pm

Okay, seriously, I wanna know what you look like now because you keep putting yourself down.

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 1:28pm

Ok Shy I have the hammer waiting...and Ive been DYING to use it all week.

If you dont want to do a one-on-one date with her yet and since she suggested a group hangout, organize a BBQ with some friends..both sexes..tell them to bring their girlfriends and make food, have a few drinks...have a plan if you want to escape the crowd. Like a walk or something. Would highly suggest a break from the crowd for a little bit. Shows your interest in her.

Ok here's what you do. You clear your throat, wipe your sweaty hands on your pants and dial her up. here's a script. You're hottie #1, she's hottie #2

Hottie #1 hey hows it going...
Hottie #2 Oh im fine, giggle
Hottie #1 yeah my buddy told me about you asking for my number and I'm glad you asked and called.
Hottie #2 giggle a bit more
Hottie #1 since you mentioned hanging out this weekend, I think thats a great idea.
Hottie #2 giggle a lot more...really?
Hottie #1 Yeah, would you like to come over for a BBQ. My buddies and I are cooking up some burgers and having a few beers. Their girlfriends are coming by too. I would be happy to see you there.
Hottie #2 Oh that sounds fun.
Hottie #1 Ok great, here's the address.. party starts at 7pm. I'll call you on Friday before to be sure we're still game
Hottie #2 Sounds good, see you then.
Hottie #1 Thanks for calling, talk to you soon. Bye

Hang up, pat your self on the back, flex in the mirror, blow a kiss at yourself...whatever guys do when they land a date.

Not hard..probably a ten minute call with all the giggling and crap. It'll be fine.

The soap opera plot just thickened. We've introduced new characters.

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 2:05pm
I do have pics, but I dont wanna post them on message boards, it makes me a little uncomfortable. I have no problem with you seeing them countrygrl or ruby or shy, but I dont know if I want to put them up on here you know what I mean?
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 2:07pm
So email them to her. we all can be emailed through our profiles.

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 2:59pm
I described myself earlier in some thread I dont remember which one...
I dont really like people seeing me.

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