Women and flirting

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Women and flirting
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Sun, 04-23-2006 - 10:39pm

So theres a thread on here about how a lot of you women shut down or become intensely shy when you see a guy you like or are attracted to and dont know how to act...

If I remember correctly someone wrote about how they would aviod their crush in a social setting with other people...another one said that she smiles and then doesnt do anything after that.

I am confused...

A lot of girls smile at me and a lot of girls aviod me so should I pursue those ones?
I am being sarcastic but I do have a genuine question to the females here...

How do I pick up on when a woman likes me so I can approach her or continue to talk to her or try to flirt or whatever. I would just like to know so I dont make a fool out of myself like I seem to do sometimes with women.

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Registered: 03-28-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 8:55am

But the thing is he's an ex, so apparently something didn't go right with him. She was at dinner with you and not him so give yourself some credit.

how did the rest of the night go?

Trina

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:50am

Helloooo... who was she with? And she didn't say he is her boyfriend, but he is an ex. That means he's not the one for her.

She is learning about you to find out if you are. And you could be as soon as you stop looking so down on yourself and comparing yourself to others.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:28pm

Sometimes pretty wrappings disguise an ugly gift.

Just because this man is good looking does not mean that he:
- treated her well
- gave her what she needed
- was the right match for her

Like the other posters said, he's an EX for a reason. From experience, I can tell you that I have dated "hot" men (on the surface) who turned out to be the biggest jerks, hads no concept of how to treat a woman (especially in the bedroom, to be blunt -- it was all about them). Once you know what someone is like inside, the outside can become much less attractive.

She's spending time with you because she likes what she sees so far - both inside and out. It takes both.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:33pm

What Girls and Women Find Attractive: A Life Cycle (this is tongue in cheek people)

3-5 years old: Prince Charming...that Cinderella sure is lucky

5-10 years old: Ewww cooties..I aint ever kissing a boy.

10-17 years old: Pick any celebrity boy-toy...isnt he dreamy? I want a boyfriend that will listen to all my problems on the phone for like 5 hours at a time, like totally be a good kisser, hold my hand in the hallways, like not break up with me in Math class in front of my friends, and be the cutest boy in a tux at the prom. My friends will be green with like envy and like nobody has a better boyfriend than me..hehehe. Oh and I like think my friend's boyfriend is hot too and when we and they break up, I'll go out with him.

18-21 years old: College boys...mmm, beer drinking, muscle flexing meatheads that don't have any respect for me as a person but they just want a piece of tail. Oooh OKAY!! Maybe I can change them to love me and only me but sigh...look at his muscle...ooo ooo, his friend is cute too...and the guy in my Civics class...and the guy at the coffee shop...and who goes to football games for the game??...and him...and him too!!!

22-25 years old: I want the perfect man to mix my gene pool with. He must respect my mind and body, be faithful and stop partying and playing video games already. MUST GET MARRIED NOW!! I can't wait forever dangit and I'm getting so freaking OLD already!!! But he also has a really cute friend and one of my best guy friends is really cute too...mmm...

26-30 years old: I want a good man who has a good job that isnt intimidated by my own sucess. He needs to be well on his way to getting his act together and be ready for a steady committment to me. Marriage and babies are to be his priorities and we can start planning our life together.

30-100 years old: Look at this big lug of a guy I have walking next to me. He makes me laugh and has a kind heart. Look at his beer belly hair which matches my birthing hips. What better pair than this?? His hair is graying too but it makes him look distinguished. He has a great job that supports his family too and he's totally in love with me. Look at our beautiful children and how well they are growing up. Im really looking forward to the next 50 years of my life.

To SS: Its mostly likely that when your girl dated Meatball, she was in the 18-21 year range...if she's the same age as you, its likely that the attributes she found attractive in him when she dated him are no longer there...and he's an ex. She was there with you, so run with that. No woman can get rid of her exes, they are just a part of who she is.

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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 1:27pm
Ruby - that was GREAT! Love it. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 11:17pm

Isn't it amazing how you can sum most of us up that simply?

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Sat, 05-13-2006 - 5:17am

Been awhile so Ill update....

She is still in the 18-21 range ruby...
I tried to ignore the ex boyfriend who looked like gods gift to women as long as I could but we hung out some more and I asked more about him very casually. Turns out he broke up with her.

I found this out last weekend and I havent talked to her since then because we both had tons of work to do because of finals week and now its over and I dont feel like calling her. She and I were both free today (Friday) and I didnt call her all day but she called me tonight( I ignored the call) and she left a voicemail, and she was out with her friends saying she wanted to know what I was up to and how my tests went and etc. and she said if I got the message, to call her and come out with her or call her tomorrow so we could go out or something since we hadnt seen each other in a while....anyway...

HE BROKE UP WITH HER!....He is older and graduated and has a good job( as I could tell when I saw him because he was wearing a nice, expensive suit) and built like a rock, good looking, and blah blah blah. He broke up with HER. How could she not still be in love with a guy like that? honestly. A good looking, built, successful, well dressed type of guy...gee I wonder how I measure up.

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Sat, 05-13-2006 - 9:28am

I've seen your picture.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Sat, 05-13-2006 - 12:55pm

If I could reach through the monitor and SHAKE you, I would!

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Sat, 05-13-2006 - 1:31pm

Sorry to aggravate you lol, you havent posted on here in a while countrygrl where ya been?

Well I have things to do today so I cant call her yet, but I probably will tomorrow. I havent treated her bad at all. We went out to eat a couple more times and hung out with friends last weekend. I make her laugh more then anyone I have ever known...she actually gets my sense of humor which is cool. And she thinks I am actually a good dancer too despite how white I look on the dance floor, lol.

Wait...she thinks I am nice and funny and a good dancer? maybe she thinks I am gay,lol just kidding.

I will ignore this ex boyfriend guy, I am just being stupid I know but it's like I have a little man in the back of my head that comes up with things to whisper in my ear that make me insecure. Things are going great with her though besides her ex-boyfriend the beefcake. She doesnt seem like the girl who would date a meathead though, even though she is a knockout she is intelligent and incredibly sweet and down to earth.

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