women in higher positions are...........

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women in higher positions are...........
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:59pm
Do you all think women in good jobs seem indifferent towards men, especially in management?
I just don't see that "desire" in them?
I think thats what makes a lot of men angry and they don't want to see women in higher positions, right?
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:51pm

"I think thats what makes a lot of men angry and they don't want to see women in higher positions, right?"

Where do you get that idea?

Your argument can easily be applied to men as well. In my line of work I've met many men who are single and extremely arrogant, cold and only focused on making money. Is that okay because it's the way he's supposed to be as a male? Am I supposed to exuse that and love him because he owns his own company or is a high-powered lawyer?

As a woman I try to avoid men like that, so your statement works both ways. It's not only women who can be indifferent towards the opposite sex in favor of money and power.

What may make a lot of women angry is when they are used by men who are so focused on their career that they've become bachelors only interested in one night stands because they would rather avoid the responsibility of a real relationship altogether. I've seen this is large cities filled with successful professionals like NY.

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:59pm

Do you all think women in good jobs seem indifferent towards men, especially in management?

I don't think this is true at all. This is a generalization. Some are and some aren't, but it has nothing to do with what kind of job they are in. Some women in good jobs are so used to being self reliant and find it difficult to be vulnerable at times and allow guys to take the lead and care for them (myself included) but this doesn't mean that just because a woman has a good job then she's "indifferent towards men".

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 4:06pm
Also I agree with the others that relationship desire and the workplace are two complete separate entities. Work should stay at work and desire should stay at home. Those women who make good leaders and who also have the desire for love and are healthy overall, are able to focus on work at work to become successful and not bring work home to their relationships.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:28pm
I think it's not that they don't have the desire, rather it's a defense mechanism. I can speak for myself and say that I've worked long and hard to get where I am without any man's help. So now that I've gotten the degree and the money, I'm not about to offer it up in a silver plate to someone who just happens to show up at the 11th hour for the party. So any man who's going to get my attention would be someone who is themselves accomplished and are in a higher positions as well b/c as a woman I still want someone that I can look up to and respect. Secondly, I haven't been lucky in love so I've learned to invest in things that bring results such as my career and myself to the point now I'm not just successful in my career, I am healthy mentally and physically, so I don't invest as much in finding love which so far cost me more than the benefits it brought...too much emotional pain. So, I know I want love but at the same time I don't want to get hurt again b/c that would slow me down in other areas of my life as well.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 8:57pm
I think your perception is flawed about men.
What kind of "achievements" do you have that is so special that your only attracted to men who have higher positions?
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 1:34am
I work in the auto industry, which is very male dominated. My experience has been that any time I act like a human being- have fun, joke, symphathize, anything- the reaction is that it is an open invitation into my pants. It isn't so much a matter of wanting to observe propriety, but more a matter of self defense. In order to be taken seriously, you cannot be seen as a woman. A lot of times you can't even be seen as a person because the men cannot see past the anatomy. I can only imagine that it gets worse the higher one gets up the food chain.
Brenna
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:14am
LOL stereotypes are just redonculous aren't they HAHA!

Smile,

Deirdre

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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 9:58am
THANK YOU!! LOL :) I'm glad someone was thinking what I was thinking.
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 10:00am
I think your perception of women is flawed. I also sense that nothing we say is going to satisfy whatever the heck you came here for, so why are you here? Maybe you'd be better off if you listened and understood one single thing about women. We try to tell you and you just tell us we're wrong. WE ARE WOMEN.
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Registered: 07-19-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 5:21pm
Ok...... why are you so sensitive? You get offended so quickly.I do take your advice. I just don't agree with everything some of you say. I really do appreciate your advice though cm17221. You picture also looks very seductive and enticing! Are you charismatic?


Edited 8/23/2007 5:27 pm ET by jackmoin