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Women without a good man, this is 4 U
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Tue, 11-27-2007 - 9:17pm

 Z

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 11:21pm

Hey Z,


I just wanted to let you know that I've read quite a few of your posts, and I admire your intelligence and insights. I'm just getting over a break-up (a month ago), and instead of

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Registered: 08-21-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 6:13am

I'm afraid I didn't get to the end of your post as it is far too long and 'motivational speaker'-scented for my liking...I'll just give you a quick response to this one line of yours: 'There is ABSOLUTELY no one in this world that will relieve this pain or frustration, sadness, depression, or loneliness, EXCEPT YOU' . With all due respect - no way in h*** is that true. We've had about zillion discussions on this board on the subject of 'is real true happiness possible alone' and many people expressed many different opinions - I stand by mine: it may very well be age related. It may very well have to do with every unique individual. Whatever. I can tell you one thing: having going through a nightmare of disastrous 'I hate

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 12:10pm
>> There is ABSOLUTELY no one in this world that will relieve this pain or frustration, sadness, depression, or loneliness, EXCEPT YOU' .



With all due respect - no way in h*** is that true.




I will have to agree with zlibby. 99% of pain is self inflicted.
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Registered: 06-04-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 1:05pm

I know what I want to say about this thread, but I will just quote Candice Bergen aka "Murphy Brown"....


"There is nothing wrong with growing old alone. It's just nice not to have to."


And that's the way I see things. Happy alone, Happier together.


GT36

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 1:45pm
I think one great thing about being single is that it's a time to focus on yourself and figure out what can make you happy (or happier for some) on your own and DO it without having to worry about anyone else (in a relationship sense, of course.
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Registered: 07-13-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 2:13pm

You know,


If you are saying that opportunity does not come over to your house and knock on the front door . .and that you have to get out and knock on opportunities door . . then that is kind of in the no $it category. (-: 99% of people kind of figured that out long ago.


I just thought I would drop my nickels worth in just so all us men don't get "boxed up" in your "original ideas". I am pretty sure you have read a book called "the game", if not, you have seen hundreds of the web based knock offs of the same concepts . . .been around a

We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 2:47pm

I think most of us here don't need a lecture that we must "get out there" to change our lives.

Soliel
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 3:00pm

It may make you sad, but it was also honest, real, and - in my opinion - true.


>>This is what I have come up with...I don't believe we can be totally happy without developing ourselves. It's a crucial part of happiness HOWEVER, I know it's hard for me to be happy without a love relationship, too.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 4:50pm
Nice post, and uhhhh . . . interesting profile.
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 5:19pm
Well happy birthday to both of you!

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