This Would Be Nice But!!!!!! (setup, Ironic, Life is nutty)

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This Would Be Nice But!!!!!! (setup, Ironic, Life is nutty)
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Sat, 05-10-2014 - 10:50am

Hello everyone....

Well here is a new story and twist...............lets see if I can keep the short version..............This guy I had become friends with who lives near NJ who I met on a dating site a few years ago decides to tell me he has a single friend who lives about 5 minutes away from me near the beach area... This guy has a gfriend (one in NJ) and he says me and gfriend plan on taking a ride to your area to go to a outdoor fair and the beach and then maybe dinner.. He then says yeah; we will pick you up and we can hang out and take you to dinner for your birthday.... Okay.. So about  3 pm they arrive and we all go over to the fair by the beach..............My sister and boyfriend even joined us.. We were having a nice time and then L (guy friend) mentions oh; I forgot I called J (his friend he wants to set me up with) and he is meeting us at the bar......I had really forgotten about this guy until L just announced he called him to come and meet us.....Good thing I dressed well and put some makep up on but It would have been nice to know this beforehand...as i may have done my hair a bit better LOL...

Anyway;  A bit later the three of us are the bar /restuarant and L calls J again and he says oh; J will be late because he is at his band practice.. Okay so we wait and then lo and behold J shows up.............We were all having a good time and then when J goes to restroom F (gfriend of L and J) says oh; he is a nice guy and we wanted you guys to meet but he is still hung up on his ex gfriend or he is trying to get back with this ex gfriend...........Okay so nothing I can do about that... Didnt even know if the guy liked me.. The sad  part is that he is a nice guy and he is 63 years old and if for anything at all it would be nice to hang out or something but unfortunately no one knows but he is trying to get back with his ex gfriend... So we then all left the place and said goodbye and that was that.....................Now my friend (L) says oh; this is good.. Maybe we can all hang out in summer and do this or that and blah blah... You and J and me and F.......well I wont hold my breath as I have no idea what is going on but it would have been nice if the guy liked me and he wasnt trying to get back with is ex............Isnt it ironic though the guy is 63 and seems okay and lives right near me.. . Such is life!!!!

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Registered: 05-14-1999

At least you have a social life.  Mine consists of work and family.  The thing is, I once had an active social life and I don't really miss it that much . . . Every once in a blue moon.  Anyway, it sounds like you had fun.  Distractions like this man are fun sometimes, even if it may not lead to anything romantic.  Who knows, maybe J has another friend who's not hung up on his ex.  The good news is, you're out enjoying life and are open to possibilities.  I think that's great.  

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ha ha. You are so right CFK..... and yes I do enjoy my life most of the time but I think if sometimes people didnt push me or motivate me I would probably just sit at home and watch movies and eat popcorn all the time..... and take long walks and paint by number or something........LOL

One reason I wouldnt mind living in a one of those garden apt. complexes.. where they have the gyms and swimming pools and club rooms..cause I would just be staying in the apt. complex and never going out. LOL.... or Maybe I am tired of the single scene and just want to play bingo and bridge with the older crowd.. Well I guess its all about balance... Do a little of this and some of that eh!!!   Like tomorrow we are having a party here at the house and celebrating Mothers Day and  my sons birthday... So getting food and a cake......

well I hope you can find the balance and get out there and have some fun....you deserve it after hanging out with family and working...

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Well maybe he will think that you were so fabulous that his exGF will look bad in comparison!  lol  At least you had a good time.  And good that your friend warned you that this guy was hung up on his ex so you wouldn't get your hopes up too much.  I know that I am so looking forward to doing things this summer after the horrible winter we had.  I don't even expect to meet anyone any more--if I go to a dance, I'm just happy to get a good amount of dances.

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So true Music.............. it was good that they told me that............The guy only talked about his ex for like a few seconds and then it was over..........

And yes the Winter was brutal so anytime I get to be outside or whatever and having fun is always a good thing....

Oh; I am feeling like you do and becoming a eunich or getting so used to staying alone.........I guess it happens sooner or later.. I am even navigating single life and things better.. Like on a Saturday I make sure I either hang out with singles or do single meet ups or just stay at home....... Its too depressing to go out and see couples on their Sat. night dates..............

I just noticed and realized on facebook and all over the place there are so many single people who are over 50 so it makes me not feel so alone.........Maybe we are just too hard on ourselves..