I would. I was trying to stay in contact with my ex on a purely friends basis and was shot down because his stupid girlfriend is making his life HELL just for wanting to talk to me. We were together for 5 years and just want to be friends! Even when they had broken up for a short period and we were finally allowed to hang out, neither of us did anything with each other. We honestly didn't want to complicate our friendship. I honestly think because of my own experience that a lot of people are in contact with their ex because they are a special part of their lives, but not in any way romantic. It depends on if the guy has feelings for her though. I'm not sure if my ex still has feelings for me. I knwo that his girlfriend called me bawling one night about what a jerk he is and how when they first started dating he kept blaming his jerkiness on not being over me. This was all news to me. But anyway, if they're just friends and he seems to be totally into you, I wouldn't question it. I'm the ex who has no intention of stealing away another girl's man (even if he used to be mine) and it has caused us a lot of turmoil because his new girlfriend just doesn't believe either of us. Oh well.
What you described sounds like there's still a strong emotional connection, if not a physical one. As the new woman in his life, honestly, that might make me uncomfortable. Whether or not the other woman has intentions of 'stealing him back,' it might complicate things if she's still solidly in the picture and always hanging around.
I dated a guy in college whose ex girfriend of five years lived in the same building as him. She had a key. She would show up unannounced when I was there. They were "just friends," but it was very uncomfortable for me. She still had an obvious effect on his life, and it made it really hard to develop a new relationship while that tie was still there.
So, to the OP, if he e-mails his ex once in awhile or they chat on the phone from time to time, I wouldn't worry. If they seem to be best friends forever and do everything together, I might think twice. Might be time for an honest conversation with him about where things stand with his ex.
I think it depends on the connection, and like does she live in the same town? How much do they talk? How long ago did they break up? I would say maybe to this but I'd need the details. Also I think it depends on the guy, what he is like. I know some guys just don't have a lot of female friends and I'd worry more in that case than with a guy who is always friends with females (platonically). Kind of like I am the type who doesn't have a lot of male friends and I don't really stay friends with my ex-bfs, so I could see a future bf being more surprised by it than say my other friend who has tons of male friends.
depends how long she has been his ex?
I dated a guy in college whose ex girfriend of five years lived in the same building as him. She had a key. She would show up unannounced when I was there. They were "just friends," but it was very uncomfortable for me. She still had an obvious effect on his life, and it made it really hard to develop a new relationship while that tie was still there.
So, to the OP, if he e-mails his ex once in awhile or they chat on the phone from time to time, I wouldn't worry. If they seem to be best friends forever and do everything together, I might think twice. Might be time for an honest conversation with him about where things stand with his ex.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I think it depends on the connection, and like does she live in the same town? How much do they talk? How long ago did they break up? I would say maybe to this but I'd need the details. Also I think it depends on the guy, what he is like. I know some guys just don't have a lot of female friends and I'd worry more in that case than with a guy who is always friends with females (platonically). Kind of like I am the type who doesn't have a lot of male friends and I don't really stay friends with my ex-bfs, so I could see a future bf being more surprised by it than say my other friend who has tons of male friends.
Jilly