Would you date a guy who doesn't have car.......??
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|Sun, 09-08-2013 - 8:05am|
Happy Sunday!! I hope everyone is enjoying their week-end.
So things have been busy with the new job but I managed to get myself out to a singles dance in my area on Friday night. The venue was very nice.....it's close to where I live and basically accessible by public transit. I drove, as generally I'm a driver and it was a good 15-20 minute drive from where I live.
It wasn't that busy - typical older guys/women.......tried to make the best of it and chat with a few people who I've known over the years who attend these events. There was one guy in particular that I've seen many times. He is younger and attractive, but he always seemed a bit awkward (nothing wrong with that!!) but interested in various women. Well I guess he focused his attentions on me on Friday night.......he walked me out to my car, we exchanged numbers and he mentioned going for dinner the next day. I gave him a hug goodnight and just thought okay......we'll see what happens.
He called me later on in the afternoon yesterday (Saturday)........frankly I was beat from the week of work, plus I had done laundry the night before after work (before going to the dance) and had done grocery shopping yesterday morning.......I hadn't really been home yet to relax all week. Anyhow......he did want to go for dinner and "dancing" afterward......I asked him where he would like to go and he mentioned going for dinner in this "suburb" (about 40 kms away from where I live)......and then going dancing in this "suburb" (acually......same area where I work) but totally on the opposite side of the city - I'm talking a 60 km drive from A to B. Then 40 kms home from B.
I casually asked him if he drove and he said "No......I have a drivers licence, but because I live in the city I don't own a car". Hmm........so I was supposed to drive on our date to these various locales?? I found him odd and said that I was just relaxing - maybe another night. He persisted a few times in offering other alternatives (even asking if him not having a car was a problem) but basically I just let him know I wasn't up for going out that night. He sent me another text saying sorry to pressure me.....but anyways......
I'm not sure I see a future with this guy, but the car situation made me question.......if he knew he didn't have a car (but lived downtown.......I am fairly close to downtown)........why not say "I don't have a car, but do you want to meet somewhere (central) for dinner??". I wouldn't have been put off by that at all, however, the concept that we were going to go on a "date" where I was basically driving him around the suburbs.......I don't know......that seemed preposterous.......
I know it sounds chivalrous - I don't expect guys to drive an expensive car, etc. but I recall in younger years going out with guys and having to drive......it just didn't seem right.....
I guess it's on my list (and has been for a while) - a guy has to have a car - it doesn't need to be any great shakes, but......it makes me wonder.....
Anyone else here on the board feel the same?? Any date experiences when *you* were the driver.......??