Would you date someone with children?
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Would you date someone with children?
| Thu, 10-05-2006 - 10:54pm |
Would you date someone with children?
- Yes
- No
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It seems like more and more of the population is getting divorced, some with kids, some without. I am 28 years old, never been married (heck, never really even had a BF if you want to get technical) and I have a pretty good idea what I want. Recently I had a guy on myspace e-mail me and sent a funny, cute e-mail and he's cute, lives in the area, etc. He is also divorced and has "proud parent" under his profile...who knows the stats of that, but my friend told me that I shouldn't discount this person solely based on that...one of my other friends never imagined herself being with a guy who has kids, but she is and she's really happy with him, and I'm happy for her, but I just can't see me doing that. I have friends that have kids and are out there dating and they admit that it's hard, but are there others on here that feel the same way? That they aren't looking to date someone with children, or are people making exceptions as it becomes more of a social norm?
I don't know, I guess I've always imagined that whoever I end up marrying, it will be the first time around for both of us and we'll have kids together down the road. I've budged on dating smokers and guys that have been divorced, but I'm not sure I could budge on the kids thing...am I a bad person for that?
No, you're not a bad person for it.
My answer isn't a straight yes or no.
Yes to grown or nearly grown, but no to little ones.
Of course you're not a bad person--everyone gets to want what they want!
At my advanced age of 48, though, it's pretty hard to avoid men with kids, plus I'm obviously not going to be having any of my own, so I'm ok with dating guys with kids. It is harder, however, if the kids are young.
I'm not willing to be flexible on dating a smoker however, so we all have our "things"!
Sheri
he gave me plenty of warning - told me not long after we met, but at that point i liked him so much already that i decided it was ok.
he only sees her every other weekend, and because of my screwed up schedule, i hardly see her, so it's a lot different than dating a full-time dad. but that doesn't mean it's not a big deal. it's kind of a double-edged sword. part of me is very nervous and uncomfortable with the kid element - what if i became a stepmom? that's scary! on the other hand, i know being a father has shaped P, in very good ways, and i have enjoyed reaping some of the benefits of that. he has a good relationship with his daughter, and that's a truly lovely thing to see.
I think people are really concerned about"will this person ask me to be the other parent"and some people feel that way and others are just looking for a date.As long as the person is not forcing me to play mommie it's not that big of a deal to me. If you get serious with that person then yea you need to evaluate if you want to take on that child, but if you really love that person you will.