Would you ever lose interest in a guy...

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Would you ever lose interest in a guy...
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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 12:28pm
...because he didn't call you just to chat?

I'm of the opinion that early on, its not a good idea to chat too long on the phone. A phone personality isn't a real personality.

I've gone on 2 dates with this girl I met recently, and other than calling to arrange the dates, I haven't called her at all. My friend thinks this might put this girl off because it denotes a lack of interest on my part.

Opinions?

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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 12:32pm
No - in the first month my expectation is that I will hear from him in advance to make a once a week plan and possibly get an email otherwise. I agree with you re: phone conversations. After 4 or 5 dates I would like a call once a week extra just to chat.
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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 12:50pm

I actually prefer it if they just called to make dates & not chat. But I am not a big fan of the phone - especially when they are on a cellphone.


She may be different tho! I don't think you should think about it. If it feels right to call when you want to ask her out, then continue...if you keep asking, obviously you are interested so why would she lose interest? But if you think to call her to chat...and then stop yourself b/c you've analyzed it, then

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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 1:04pm
hehehe. i find it odd when we agree. ;-)
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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 1:05pm
but what if i feel the need to call her because i'm thinking i SHOULD call her?
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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 1:13pm

I think that as long as you are making regular dates, you should be okay.

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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 1:22pm
"Does she know you're interested?"

i told her i found her attractive, i liked her personality, and i kissed her.

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Fri, 10-03-2003 - 1:33pm

Awww...you kissed her? Now I have the warm fuzzies! Keep it up, and you'll be just fine!


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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 10-04-2003 - 7:21am
No, I would not lose interest but then I don't really like chatting on the phone that much, esp. with people I don't know very well. I prefer to talk in person, or even IM or email. As long as the guy is calling to make dates that is enough for me because it lets me know he is interested. Iri