Yet another one reappears

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Yet another one reappears
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Sat, 08-03-2013 - 10:23am
They always come crawling back- that's what I always say. The guy I briefly dated in June who disappeared in the same fashion as the one in May decided to text me last night. It was late, and since it was Friday night, I'm sure he'd been drinking. I didn't respond. He said he wanted me to know that he liked me a lot and wasn't just leading me on. That he should have told me all he had going on. I'm not sure exactly what that meant. I called him on disappearing twice, and he wouldn't explain. I did it nicely, too. I'd written him off as not interested enough. Ugh. I'm not sure what to think of these guys. I don't want to expect them to follow some script of dating progression, but I don't want to waste my time either. I'm going to respond here in a bit. We sometimes go to the same place for karaoke, so I don't want to leave things awkward. I'd rather not feel like I have to avoid him. Beyond that...I'm really not sure.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 11:29pm

well she says that sometimes they talk on the phone and that is it.. Their whole relationship is texting, maybe talk on phone once in a blue moon and she sees him maybe twice a year in the three years she knows him.. The whole thing sounds fishy to me.. and she says she loves him... EGADS.....but she suffers from very very low self esteem and is a mess of sorts .. Long story there...

I can bet he is fooling around with other women and most likely has a gfriend but tells my friend J that he is too busy to date and he works alot and he has no money... Yeah; and I have a bridge to sell you in Brooklyn...

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 7:33pm

Even with girlfriends, I don't want to have a convo by text.  This am one of my friends was I think texting a bunch of us at the same time about where to go on Friday, so I could see how that would be easier than calling several people, but since I was driving I couldn't answer.  When I got to work, I just called her.  Besides I'd say if I was dating someone, I'd sure like to hear his voice, expressions, laughing--you can't get all that by text.

And freeatlast--their whole relationship is just texting?  That doesn't sound fun to me.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 7:07pm

Now I think you all are missing the point. 

I never said I wanted him back. I never said I'd even go out with him. I said I want things to be civil between us so it won't be awkward if we run into each other. Read carefully!!!  Sheesh. 

Maybe I should go back to not sharing so I don't get attacked for simply having thoughts.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 6:50pm

yes that texting thing makes me nuts also..

I know a woman who is in love with a man she met at her school.. She is 60 and he is 50... She thinks that just because he texts her all the time that he likes her romantically. Meanwhile they have met but never have hooked up or dated or anything. He just texts her.. and she is in love with him..that is what she says..

What I read about these types of thi ngs is that it is some sort of fantasy and the one person is trying to make it a reality but it never happens.. Its sick if you ask me.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 2:41pm
I can only speak for myself. I had to embarrass myself over and over until I finally realized that when a man wants to be with a woman, he makes it very plain. I am just grateful there wasn't texting when I was younger. Even now, I think texting is a lazy way to show interest, and I discourage it except as a way to convey information, like " I will be there in 5 minutes."
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 2:31pm
jt has a way with words. That visual had me laughing too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 5:44am

I know!! I know what mute is and it's not the word I wanted to use in my post obviously! Went to correct it and it LOOKED like it got corrected,  it said 'moot'...only to somehow again say 'mute' when I looked at it next day! I can't stand bad grammar myself!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 08-06-2013 - 3:38pm

I assume you made an error responding to me since I did not use the words "crawling back."

And "mute" means someone who can't talk or to silence (as in your remote control for the TV has a mute button).  the correct phrase is "moot point."  Sorry, I am the grammar and spelling police.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003
Tue, 08-06-2013 - 6:08am

 

All 'crawling back and forth'/ positive support matters aside here:

Rocklady is not "sister", as you've  put it.  Rocklady is my beloved twin, TWIN-SISTER, my heart  and my half, who lives in Rostock, Germany. I'm going over to see her and her partner, knock on wood, in a couple of weeks' time. What we'll probably do is take a lot of pictures, on different days and in different locations, and post them here, so that you and eveyrone else do not doubt me when I say that we are twins based in London, UK and Rostock, Germany.

Good luck . Wink I do hope you are right and his text is a beginning of something.

Best,

Julia

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003
Tue, 08-06-2013 - 6:00am

Gleannfia hi there!!

'..Once again, I had to find this out the tough, painful way.'

See, me too. Totally. I have been there, I know, I've lived it, I've 'cried' it,  not once and not twice  - that's how I know.

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