The yo-yo of trying and giving up
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The yo-yo of trying and giving up
| Tue, 07-17-2007 - 8:56pm |
Here's my pattern: I decide to be proactive on Match, then I get frustrated and give up, only to go back and give it another try. I am 39 and never married, which in my wildest dreams (worst nightmares) I never thought I would be. I'm sure I'm pickier than most, but I DO want to meet someone. I feel like I've been chasing my tail with this forever. Any suggestions?

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I agree with a lot of what you said. I too have put forth a lot of effort in the past with trying to meet someone, I've done Match probably 4 times over the past 5 years with mixed results. I just decided (for now and probably for a while) that as far as putting effort into something goes, I would rather channel it into something "attainable" as you say. I have a goal of becoming a full-time artist and with a lot of work (I've already gotten positive feedback on my artwork itself so now I am in the marketing phase - approaching galleries, finding studio space etc.) I feel I can actually achieve something by putting a lot of effort into that. I don't know if I will ever meet someone right for me but I do know that I can have a fulfilling life doing something I love for a living.
The thing about my relationships in the past is that I *haven't* had too put a lot of effort into meeting someone when it actually turned into something real. It could be coincidence or something more to it, but when it came to me somewhat easily it seemed to turn out better than when I was actually doing something like Match or being a lot more proactive about dating. So, for now, I am just laying low and playing life by ear.
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