Like You Already Know Each Other

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Like You Already Know Each Other
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Tue, 12-19-2006 - 11:23pm

When I was told to approach a girl like I already know her, like she is already my girlfriend, I recall that on my first day at a temp-job, a young woman there turned and smiled to me -- like we already know each other. She was a flirt, I have to say!

Then today at work I made a new friend. For we had ran into each other several times in the past, we already recognized each other. So today, when I greeted her, in a slightly sing-song tone, "Hey, there -- What 'sup?" she introduced herself to me and we talked ....

What do you think of the advice?

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 11:51pm

I've never heard of this "like you know her" approach before ... sorry. Honestly, if a guy came up to me who I had never met before and started talking to me as if he knew me, I'd think he were a little "off". Just me.

Now, if you mean to say that someone told you to put yourself in the mindset that you already knew a girl, to put yourself at ease, make yourself comfortable, I guess if that works for you then go for it.

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Registered: 09-17-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 2:08am
That's fantastic! I do the same thing. I learned it when I was an auditor, and it really works to put people at ease with you. It's like you're going up to them and saying, "Hi, I'm a normal person, just like you, and we probably have tons in common, look how at ease we are with each other already!"

Angie

 

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 11:25am

Exactly!

That attitude makes you more approachable and more open to the person.

Kind of like how people react to you when you are smiling vs. when you are frowning.


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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 6:35pm
I have to say I LOVE this approach. I like it when a guy just sparks up a conversation with me like we already know each other. I've often had guys do it on Myspace and we became cool friends. I hate to be approached like a potential dating candidate ( so what do you do? where do you hang out? what do you do for fun?) I love how comfortable it feels. Works for me!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:17pm
Perhpas I have found my niche. Thank you ladies!
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 5:53am
Hmm sounds like a good approach! Very harmless and very polite...much different than what I've seen in the past...I think it would work on me LOL :)