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| Sun, 03-26-2006 - 11:51am |
If you had a girlfriend Would you let her behave this way?
Yesterday I was went to a birthday gathering I was invited some days ago. It took place in a bar-restaurant and it had good music (70´s, 80´s and 90´s) The birthday was in honor of a coworker of mine. She invited only her closest friends (just 2 from work and the rest from outside work), it was her 27th birthday. So a friend booked a special place in the bar for the attendees, it was like a secluded place inside the bar, not that secluded because there were not doors and people from other parts of the bar can see the secluded place, but it was like a more private place comparing to the rest of the bar. The thing is that the birthday girl, likes to party and have fun a lot, I have gone with her in previous times to other bars.
She likes to get drunk, it is true, she likes to get drunk and be smiley all time when she is drunk and as she is drunk and if she is talking about something, she likes to repeat it over and over again too many times. The other lady coworker from work also likes to get drunk, and they both hang out together very often. Not all attendees made fool out of themselves by being drunken just 3 people.
Since yesterday it was her birthday, my friend drank and drank (beer, tequila, Malibu) and got drunk as so as her other friend. There was another friend of this birthday friend, who came to the gathering with her boyfriend. She is just 21 yrs old. This lady also is like a “crazy” girl because she likes to drink and smoke also and be a little drunk and act ridiculous when she drinks, her boyfriend is not like that, I saw that yesterday and the other previous times I have hanged out with them an my lady coworker. The boyfriend is more like a withdrawn, shy person, even though he drinks and smokes too.
Well yesterday as the night went by and the music was very good and the ladies (my 2 coworkers and the girlfriend) were drunk already. For some reason, one of the coworker, who enjoys people to pay attention to her, watch her and act out, she likes to be the center of attention.. She stood up over a chair and start dancing and sometimes she danced sensually.
Then the birthday girl, already drunk, wanted to do the same thing, so she too stood up in another chair and start dancing sensually, then the girl who had a boyfriend, wanted to join the party and wanted to do the same thing (in order people to get the attention from people and she always like to copy what other friends do) so I saw this lady, saying “I want to stand up also on the chair and then she asked her shy boyfriend if she can do the same thing, her boyfriend hesitated for a bit but since she insisted he let her do the same thing.
So the girlfriend also stood up in a chair and join the dancing with the 2 other girls already up in the chair. She also danced sensually. Then one moment the birthday girl stoop up in one of the bar tables that were there with us and continue to dance sensually, while the others remained on the chair. The birthday girl, even broke a glass that was on the table, because the tables were not places for a person to stand up, they were light bar tables. The entire bar-restaurant took noticed of these 3 ladies dancing or making fool out of themselves.
Now if you had a girlfriend would you have let her do what this boyfriend did with the girlfriend, I mean let her stand up on a chair drunken to dance sensually, join the fun by making fool of herself, all the bar noticed just because the lady wanted also to get the attention from the people and wanted to do the same thing as her friends were doing.
What do you think?

Since I've never had the impulse to dance on tables, I dont think I would start now..but if it came to that I would certainly hope that my boyfriend would talk me out of it, take my drink away and escort me out of the bar and home.
Its not a matter of "letting" me do it. Its a matter of helping me retain my self-respect and not embarassing either of us.
Ruby
I can't speak from a guy's point of view but I can speak from the I've-been-around-enough-drunk-people-to-know point of view. That is, extremely drunk people rarely care whether or not they're given permission to do anything. Her "asking" him was probably just a poor attempt to act like she cared what he thought.
As for a boyfriend, I would hope mine would talk me out of it but I can't imagine doing something to put my boyfriend in that awkward position in the first place.
I'm not the type to dance on tables, but if I were, I'd hope that the people around me would accept me instead of judging me for my actions.
If I had a GF, it would depend on the situation. If I was your friends BF, not in that situation, since she is breaking everything in sight, she's embarrassing the hell out of herself. But there are bars in the NYC area that I go to that allow dancing on the bar and if she wanted to dance like that on the bar, I'd be cool with it.
Cheers
TR
What's wrong with some fun?? I am not a prude, and neither would be any of my girlfriends.
Besides, like the poster above me said, a guy who "prohibits" his GF to do something is a possessive idiot.