You need to show off your assets

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Registered: 07-16-2001
You need to show off your assets
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Sat, 04-28-2012 - 3:22am
We have talked before about doing things you enjoy to meet men, but I'd like to add to that.

I really think that we need to move beyond doing things we enjoy to doing things we're good at. Not just having fun, but being good at having fun.

I realized this Wednesday night. I've been going to a new place for karaoke. Last week, it was mostly older people and women. This week, there was a table of guys behind us. Very good-looking guys. We chatted on and off all night and they said they'd be back next week. The thing that broke the ice was that they all had something to come over and say to me. Either it was a compliment on my voice or asking me what I was singing next.

Tonight I went out dancing. I'd like to think in good at that, too. I smiled at one guy (or, more like giggled at him) and he came over and tried to dance...errr...rub on me. I told him that was not an invitation and he backed off. He was with someone and that could have gone bad very quickly! Throughout the night, four other guys hit on me. I believe it was because I was doing something I felt confident at and that showed. There was only one of them I talked to for any period of time, and I'm pretty sure he was getting another chick's number as we were leaving so I just said goodbye in passing.

So...my point...do stuff you're good at. Someone's bound to notice.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 10:13am

Confidence and assertiveness are sexy!

dragowoman

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 8:36am
I so agree!