You Is What You Is

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Registered: 02-26-2011
You Is What You Is
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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 2:25am

Third and final date with the Yogi tonight.

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 11:05am
The trash in his car alone would have turned me off, and mine isn't pristine.

I think we have so many mixed messages these days. Be happy with who you are, but change the things other people don't like. Love your body, but lose weight. Embrace your age, but be sure to do it with Oil of Olay. Most of it is aimed at women, too. I don't think men have nearly the same amount of pressure to please others as we do.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 1:26pm

Ha ha!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 1:44pm
Some men can do something about how much they make, but I think a lot of financial success is tied to intelligence. Ambition also has a lot to do with it, and that's where the ability to change comes in. I also think that men think money matters to women far more than it does to most of us. Of course there are women who won't date guys who make less than six or seven figures, but most of us are okay with a guy who makes enough to help support a family.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 3:02pm

Well, there's the issue of whether or not most women could be happy dating a guy who makes less

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 3:10pm

i was thinking of you yesterday when I was in the Barnes & Noble cafe and saw a gentleman in his 60's who not only had a nice french cuff shirt, but it was also monogrammed.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 3:20pm
A man who makes less than I do probably wouldn't be able to help support a family. He'd have to be close to my salary (probably within $5-10,000) or it would be really tough. I struggle with my bills on my own, and that's just feeding me in a two bedroom house and no car payment.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2008
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 6:26pm

"I don't think men have nearly the same amount of pressure to please others as we do."

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:09pm

I agree with you, Crossing, with one exception:

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:18pm

Oh! Really?

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:26pm
You guys who think there's as much pressure on men to look good- pay attention the next time you see a diet commercial. Count how many women there are vs men. Next time you're in line at the grocery store, check out the covers of magazines. How many half-naked women vs men? How many male models do you hear of who are far too thin?

I agree that there is generally more pressure on men to be successful. More of that pressure is being shifted to women, though, as two income households become more and more necessary. I also think that women put far more pressure on each other than men put on each other. Women can be far more cruel to each other than men sometimes.

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